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TrustedHer (original poster member #23328) posted at 5:13 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Lots of minor trauma lately, what with water damage, insurance claims, my bridge to my house collapsing, etc.
Lots of changes going on in my life. New job, new living arrangements. Changes in my relationship with my sons and my granddaughter. Some things I can't talk about here.
And then the quote thread in F&G gets full.
Volume 12 is full and locked, and Volume 14 is started. Someone got triskaidekaphobia, so they skipped Volume 13. I am surprised to discover I'm nostalgic for the old thread.
Anyway, my entire SI history is encapsulated in that Volume 12 thread. It was started before I joined, and filled up this week, after I've been here 5 years. One of my first milestones to healing was captured there by Moo. I posted several quotes I liked there. It's been a comfortable presence in my life.
No one ever accused me of over-thinking things. Well, not this year. Or at least, not this month... yet. But it is the first day of the month.
Anyway, I'm entering a new section of my life where the only constant will be change, and I will attempt to embrace it.
But for the time being, I'm a bit disoriented. I need to regain my footing. Then I'll move forward on my new path.
Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 1:37 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
((TH))
Onward and upward.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 2:04 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Change can be very disorienting. Especially after the monumental changes that came at us without our input. It seems we strive for a little balance after what we've been through.
But, change CAN be good. I've tried not to get too comfortable with anything - be open to possibilities. Life is change and even though we long for stability, we must learn to accept and embrace the changes that come at us.
Sending strength and peace.
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 2:24 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
TH, I live in a neighborhood off of a major boulevard in my city. A boulevard that is being re-built. Not re-paved. Re-built.
My side of that boulevard is dirt that they are grading. Every morning as I leave my neighborhood, I have to get out of my car, survey the roadway and determine what the path of travel is to get to the paved side. When I return home, the same occurs.
I figure never knowing how I'm going to get to work in the morning, nor how I'm going to get home each day since the route is always different is meant to be a metaphor for something. Or at least I try and tell myself that b/c otherwise it's just pure aggravation
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 2:56 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
(((TrustedHer)))
TH, my own trust lies with your finding your new center and its being a wonderful one. You are such a kind and caring and wise person. Let yourself feel off-kilter with these changes, but know that it will pass.
cryingdaily ( member #7276) posted at 6:21 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
I have a feeling that once you get settled, you will find your balance quickly. A new chapter begins.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 8:36 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Anyway, I'm entering a new section of my life where the only constant will be change, and I will attempt to embrace it.
Sometimes I have to remember the saying, "when nothing works, do nothing". It can be surprising when happens when we give up the struggle.
I bet you'll soon find that your footing hasn't really been been as precarious as it has felt. I'm willing to bet it won't take long to find your path again. (Is it a new path, or just the same life's path you were already on...with some goodbyes and hellos coming up soon?)
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 12:57 AM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
(((TH))) Wishing you every happiness.
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 1:15 AM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
Well, we will all be here, 24/7, like always, so that isn't changing. And even though I know some of the changes are very positive, they can still disorient us for a bit. You are showing a lot of courage for dealing with all these changes right now. Good for you!
(It will all work out in the end)
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 2:39 AM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
You're just going to defragmentation and optimizing
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 9:06 AM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
On a terribly practical note, may I recommend saving/"printing" a PDF copy of this page:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/print.asp?tid=246918
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
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