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TrustedHer posted 5/1/2014 23:13 PM

Lots of minor trauma lately, what with water damage, insurance claims, my bridge to my house collapsing, etc.

Lots of changes going on in my life. New job, new living arrangements. Changes in my relationship with my sons and my granddaughter. Some things I can't talk about here.

And then the quote thread in F&G gets full.

Volume 12 is full and locked, and Volume 14 is started. Someone got triskaidekaphobia, so they skipped Volume 13. I am surprised to discover I'm nostalgic for the old thread.

Anyway, my entire SI history is encapsulated in that Volume 12 thread. It was started before I joined, and filled up this week, after I've been here 5 years. One of my first milestones to healing was captured there by Moo. I posted several quotes I liked there. It's been a comfortable presence in my life.

No one ever accused me of over-thinking things. Well, not this year. Or at least, not this month... yet. But it is the first day of the month.

Anyway, I'm entering a new section of my life where the only constant will be change, and I will attempt to embrace it.

But for the time being, I'm a bit disoriented. I need to regain my footing. Then I'll move forward on my new path.

Williesmom posted 5/2/2014 07:37 AM

((TH))

Onward and upward.

Newlease posted 5/2/2014 08:04 AM

Change can be very disorienting. Especially after the monumental changes that came at us without our input. It seems we strive for a little balance after what we've been through.

But, change CAN be good. I've tried not to get too comfortable with anything - be open to possibilities. Life is change and even though we long for stability, we must learn to accept and embrace the changes that come at us.

Sending strength and peace.

NL

cayc posted 5/2/2014 08:24 AM

TH, I live in a neighborhood off of a major boulevard in my city. A boulevard that is being re-built. Not re-paved. Re-built.

My side of that boulevard is dirt that they are grading. Every morning as I leave my neighborhood, I have to get out of my car, survey the roadway and determine what the path of travel is to get to the paved side. When I return home, the same occurs.

I figure never knowing how I'm going to get to work in the morning, nor how I'm going to get home each day since the route is always different is meant to be a metaphor for something. Or at least I try and tell myself that b/c otherwise it's just pure aggravation

norabird posted 5/2/2014 08:56 AM

(((TrustedHer)))

TH, my own trust lies with your finding your new center and its being a wonderful one. You are such a kind and caring and wise person. Let yourself feel off-kilter with these changes, but know that it will pass.

cryingdaily posted 5/2/2014 12:21 PM

I have a feeling that once you get settled, you will find your balance quickly. A new chapter begins.

better4me posted 5/2/2014 14:36 PM

Anyway, I'm entering a new section of my life where the only constant will be change, and I will attempt to embrace it.

Sometimes I have to remember the saying, "when nothing works, do nothing". It can be surprising when happens when we give up the struggle.

I bet you'll soon find that your footing hasn't really been been as precarious as it has felt. I'm willing to bet it won't take long to find your path again. (Is it a new path, or just the same life's path you were already on...with some goodbyes and hellos coming up soon?)

woundedby2 posted 5/2/2014 18:57 PM

(((TH))) Wishing you every happiness.

NaiveAgain posted 5/2/2014 19:15 PM

Well, we will all be here, 24/7, like always, so that isn't changing. And even though I know some of the changes are very positive, they can still disorient us for a bit. You are showing a lot of courage for dealing with all these changes right now. Good for you!

(It will all work out in the end)

traicionada posted 5/2/2014 20:39 PM

You're just going to defragmentation and optimizing

Amazonia posted 5/3/2014 03:06 AM

On a terribly practical note, may I recommend saving/"printing" a PDF copy of this page:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/print.asp?tid=246918

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