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Topic: Recommend books for healing during divorce

hurtyetstrong
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Posted: 8:50 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014

I checked out the healing library, seems like most of the book recommendations are geared towards reconciliation.

I have made up my mind to separate and need help building a backbone to stand up to WH when he tries to hoover me back.

Me: BW (31)
Him: WH (32)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (rescheduled :/)
divorce final November 20, 2014

Posts: 157 | Registered: Feb 2013

norabird
♀ 42092
Member # 42092

Posted: 9:16 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014

Getting Past Your Breakup by Susan Elliot.

Living and Loving After Betrayal by Steven Stosny.

The Breakup Bible by Rachel Sussman.

I read all of these and found them helpful. The Sussman is the fluffiest, the Stosny is the most calming, and the Elliott is the most practical, quick-and-dirty.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC

justinpaintoday
♂ 42858
Member # 42858

Posted: 9:25 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014

Getting past you breakup. Im half way through but love it so far. Practical and direct.

I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014

Abbondad
♂ 37898
Member # 37898

Posted: 9:45 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014

I always recommend The Journey from Abandonment to Healing. It's the only one of these books that really impacted me and which I go back to again and again.

Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune

Posts: 2048 | Registered: Dec 2012

DepressedDaddy
♂ 41521
Member # 41521

Posted: 9:48 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014

This is what I am reading and it is fantastic...

"The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie

It is a daily meditation guide. It has a ton of great topics. I highly recommend it!

Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy

“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."

Posts: 1255 | Registered: Dec 2013

Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554

Posted: 10:16 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014

Getting Past Your Breakup. And do the exercises she suggests!

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA

sparkysable
♀ 3703
Member # 3703

Posted: 1:04 PM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014

I found Runaway Husbands to be very helpful.

BW - 40
DD - 6 years old
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Posts: 5139 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY

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