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krsplat (original poster member #43242) posted at 3:30 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
I walked in on my WH and OW on a Wednesday two months ago. Every Wednesday since then has been a nightmare of slo-mo flashbacks, triggers and tears. I've taken many of those days off work since I was so dysfunctional.
Two days ago, after a long, healing conversation and some actual pleasure in each other's company, my WH looked at me at the end of the day and said, "Do you realize that today was Wednesday?" I hadn't thought about it until he said it.
It's a baby step, I grant you, but still a step. Today I have hope that I might not be trapped in hell forever.
Me & WH: 50+, married 23 years, 4 kids, now D
DDay: 3/5/14, 7 yr LTA plus multiple ONS
Conclusion: Some things are just too broken to be fixed.
CantSeeInTheDark ( member #43231) posted at 3:51 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
((Krsplat))
I wish you many more baby steps
Me 35y
Him 48y
1 Awesome son 3y
DD1 May 2013
DD2 April 2014
Currently wondering how someone who vowed so much, can care so little
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 4:24 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
each step no matter how small gets you closer to victory.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 4:46 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
((((krsplat))))
It's so wonderful to realize healing is possible.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 1:07 AM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
Small steps, sistah, will get you down that path to recovery. Keep walking!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 2:28 AM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2014
So glad you are moving forward! Every little bit counts.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
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