Forum Archives

Return to Forum List

Anxiety and the great outdoors

You are not logged in. Login here or register.

Unagie posted 5/2/2014 22:31 PM

I am becoming a recluse. I go out sometimes but the fear of seeing AP or even old coworkers makes me have anxiety. So today I go for a short walk down the block to the gas station for a soda. I am waiting and rolling my eyes at the antics of the idiot in front of me (cursing, poking fun at the guy behind the window, loud....ugh) and then I grab my soda and turn to leave. As I turn directly behind me is a man and for a moment I think its AP. I freaked out and walked away as quickly as possible. I tripped and almost fell, never looked back. Im 99% sure that it was not him and rather someone who looked similarly. I really need to get better with my anxiety.

20WrongsVs1 posted 5/3/2014 08:32 AM


That sounds just awful. FFS, you can't spend the rest of your life in your apartment. I can sympathize but not relate, not sure I've ever felt anxious, I'm the fearless "leap before you look" type.

Our MC would probably ask, "So what would happen if you saw AP? Or your coworkers?" It would hurt, or feel embarrassing or shameful, but you wouldn't spontaneously combust, or become a pillar of salt. You'd survive, right? I don't have any sage advice, here, but clearly you're torturing yourself with fear of seeing AP, and I hate to see you do that. It's like, you're inflicting pain on yourself from an imaginary event hasn't even happened.

mrhurt314 posted 5/3/2014 09:50 AM

I hear you on the recluse thing, times a million. I have EXTREME anxiety when I step foot outside the safety of our home. The AP doesn't even live remotely near us, so I've never pinned that as a specific fear.

I've been chewing on it, and all I've come up with is a completely irrational fear of people knowing that I'm a horrible person. That, and I hate triggers. And it's like my brain actively seeks them out. Then the spiral. Then more anxiety and panic. And then I can't get home fast enough.

My apologies, that was a long way around to saying I understand anxiety and reclusiveness.

tired girl posted 5/3/2014 17:14 PM


What are you doing at this point about your depression and anxiety?

Unagie posted 5/3/2014 18:33 PM

TG nothing with a professional counselor. I've tried continuing with the exercises my old counselor gave me. I try to redirect my focus when I identify the anxiety. No meds and still no money for anything but bills, my life is pretty much work and bills. Its not much of a life which is contributing to it all. I have a lot of I wants with no money for any of them and I have a ton of needs that I also have no money for including getting help for anxiety.

knightsbff posted 5/4/2014 14:57 PM


Mindfulness has done wonders for my anxiety. I was pretty reclusive for a while there. It was irritating to knight because I didn't want to go shopping, out to eat, to the movies or anywhere. It was rough. I only felt safe at home and I wanted to stay in my bedroom when home. That wasn't working.

There is a lot of free information online for Minfulness and there are a few free apps that really help with practicing as well.

KBeguile posted 5/4/2014 17:53 PM


I'm going to be a slight voice of dissent here in saying that I've completely flipped from being an extroverted "go everywhere" guy to a completely introverted "stay home" guy. My reasoning is that I can't be a help to my family when I'm apart from my family.

I only say this because it's not always a bad thing that one takes stock of one's desires in the world and finds everything he or she wants has been at home all along.

That said, the anxiety you're feeling can probably be helped, but I'm saying that, in the bigger picture, being someone who prefers to be at home rather than not isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Return to Forum List

© 2002-2018 ®. All Rights Reserved.     Privacy Policy