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Helen of Troy posted 5/3/2014 07:23 AM

MSA says I get Mothers Day he gets Fathers Day.
We agree to schedule a year in advance. In my residual co dependence I was concerned about offering him Memorial Day at the time, thinking more about others than myself. He refused Memorial DAy weekend as his one weekend a month.
TODAY I REALIZE NEXT WEEKEND is Mother's Day which is also his weekend of the month for visitation.
I emailed asking he bring the girls back Saturday or switch weekends because Mothers Day is mine according to agreement.
I am now thinking he planned this and now what if he says well too late you agreed a year in advance, or you had no objection until now too late? then owife gloats at being with MY kids on Mother's Day.

I'm trying to imagine this was just an oversight and that he will do the right thing.
The other part of me is planning vengeance on exposing his unethical just downright crappy behavior. Owife is domineering. I am concerned even if he did want to do the right thing that she would forbid him to do it.

inconnu posted 5/3/2014 08:02 AM

From my understanding, the holiday schedule takes precedence over the regular schedule. So, if he doesn't not bring the girls back for Mother's Day, he is in violation. Don't ask him, tell him.

That being said, he may not comply. Decide whether it's a hill you want to die on or not. My ex did all sorts of shitty stuff like this the 1st year, including taking the boys because of ex wanted them to go to his mother's for mother's day. Personally, I chose to take the high road, not put my kids in the middle, and let them go. But then again, I was pretty used to Mother's Day not really being about me, at that point.

Helen of Troy posted 5/3/2014 08:46 AM

Thank you that was helpful.
I may concede if the kids see their actual grandmother and holiday is not for owife/stepmom or her mom.
It's still possible he will do the right thing and switch weekends. Who knows.
It is good to know holiday takes precedence over regular. I was even going to extend the olive branch and make him a cd of the kids for Fathers Day. (before this issue because it would be the right thing to do)If he doesn't comply, I won't be doing that. He doesn't know about the cd photos.

million pieces posted 5/3/2014 09:10 AM

We do every other weekend, but Mothers/Fathers day superceeds that every year. If I don't have them on that weekend, I just get them early on Sunday.

SBB posted 5/3/2014 18:53 PM

We don't swap whole weekends - just the Sunday. It isn't a choice or a point of debate - it's in the orders. The sad clown chose not to have them on his first Fathers Day. I have that in writing so he couldn't accuse me of not following the orders.

He may choose to not swap the whole weekend but he can't choose to not hand them over on Mothers Day. I'd be calling the cops if he did.

His choices are swap the whole weekend or hand them over on the Sunday. That is all.

Gemini71 posted 5/3/2014 23:33 PM

Look at it this way, he messed up by requesting a weekend that has a day that is 'yours' by decree. His problem.

Ditto SBB. Sunday is yours.

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