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User Topic: Another little thing
tesla
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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, May 3rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last week it was the steak knives...this week asparagus.

Three years ago, the summer before D-day, I put asparagus crowns in the garden. Ex-shat loves fresh asparagus. But it takes 2-3 years before you can eat asparagus out of your own garden. We were so excited about getting that asparagus started. We had fun envisioning were we would be 3 years down the line when we were eating our first cuttings from the garden.

D-day hits. He leaves. That first summer the asparagus starts coming up...I didn't tend the garden that year...just let it go. Last summer I get interested in the garden again and see the asparagus comes back up but certainly not ready to be cut for eating. I thought long and hard about pulling it out as it was something ex-shat really loved. But I like it too...so I let it do its thing.
Last night Teslen mentions to me that something weird appeared in one of the garden beds (he's been out doing yard work this week)...came up over night he says. Walk out to take a look...it's beautiful, ready to cut stalks of asparagus!!

I've come a long way in the three years it has taken that asparagus to be edible and am going to thoroughly enjoy roasted asparagus with dinner tonight!

[This message edited by tesla at 11:58 AM, May 3rd (Saturday)]


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4835 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, May 3rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hell yeah, what a great metaphor for a fresh start.

Be sure to put lots of lemon butter on it.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17811 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, May 3rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want a Teslen...............

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6635 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, May 3rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome! Hooray for asparagus! It's great with a little olive oil, salt/pepper, garlic , roasted in the oven! I need to head out to the store!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3631 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, May 3rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this - great metaphor too! I love how just like healing, these green shoots just pop out of nowhere.

TMI - there was an asparagus embargo in our house - zero tolerance. I LOVE asparagus but unfortunately I had to miss out too even though <TMI reasoning I won't spell out>.

Nowadays I have it as much as I want!! Another great metaphor.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, May 3rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How wonderful!


Sit. Feast on your life.

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so awesome. I love the impact that Teslen has on you and Teslet. I am so happy for all of you that things have turned out so well.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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healingtree
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this story Tesla.

[This message edited by healingtree at 9:14 AM, May 4th (Sunday)]


FBS 1st D-day 7-11-07, 2nd DDay Post-Breakup in 8-12
HIM - Doesn't Matter Anymore
The only thing we can change about the past is how we look at it.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this story!


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Funny how the little things remind us how life goes on isn't it? And it seems appropriate that it's time for the asparagus to be ripe enough now. ((Hugs))


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4715 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

http://www.buzzfeed.com/food52/asparagus-recipes?s=mobile

Hope you have a HUGE crop.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've got my ex's asparagus growing in my garden too. It's yummy and I'M the one enjoying it!!!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

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marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is awesome!


BS: 34
WS: 36 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
2 OC, one 6 yrs old and the other a few months (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

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