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damn, how fucked up is this?

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 inconnu (original poster member #24518) posted at 1:41 AM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014

I was talking to DS18 today about SO moving in with us in a couple of weeks, and the talk went in the direction of step-siblings and step-parents because I asked my son how he'd feel about meeting SO's adult children at some point.

And DS tells me that he only recently found out he has a 14 year old step-nephew. Wifetress's son got a girl pregnant when he was a teenager, and never told anyone until a couple of months ago.

I get that teens do stupid things, like not using birth control. I get that as a teen, it would be incredibly hard to go to your parents and tell them how badly you screwed up.

But damn, how do you not admit it until 14 years later? How in the hell do you let a child you created not exist to the rest of your family? And seriously, wtf kind of parent (wifetress) raises their child to be someone who could do that to their own child? I didn't think my opinion of her could sink any lower, and yet...wow, I just can't imagine how fucked up this family truly is.

This poor step-nephew kid. How incredibly painful this must be for him, to see what kind of sperm donor he had. I hope he runs like hell, and never looks back, right after his mom sues sperm donor for 14 years of back child support.

And this in no way diminishes the compassion I feel for this kid, but hell yeah, I'm gloating to myself that ex is stuck with wifetress and her ongoing family drama, while I'm getting ready to start a whole new, wonderful chapter of my life with my SO.

There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown

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Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 2:39 AM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014

Wow. And Wifestress isn't pissed that she missed out on 14 years of grandparenthood?!

Yeah, I feel sorry for that kid too. Or maybe his momma knew what she was doing keeping him away from his sperm donor's family. BTW, I've heard that in some states, the child can sue for back CS when they turn 18. Maybe he can fund college that way.

DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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 inconnu (original poster member #24518) posted at 2:53 AM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014

I don't know, nor care, about how wifetress feels.

I am glad, however, that both my sons realize how fucked up it is, and even more glad that their stepmother doesn't have any influence over either of them.

at least this is one episode of the wifetress created Jerry Springer show type drama that I don't even have to be in the audience for, instead of being dragged on stage with the crazy people.

There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown

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Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 2:56 AM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014

Sorry. Didn't mean to imply you should feel sorry for wifestress. Intended more to point out how messed up and unnatural she is. Thank God your kids have you!

DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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 inconnu (original poster member #24518) posted at 3:00 AM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014

No worries. I didn't take it that way. Actually, I hadn't given any thought to her missing out on her grandson's life, until you mentioned it. Evil me kinda wants to laugh now.

There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 8:30 AM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014

It speaks badly of wifetress' relationship with her son that he couldn't tell her this.

And yeah, damn that's fucked up!!

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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careerlady ( member #16958) posted at 3:53 PM on Sunday, May 4th, 2014

That's pretty messed up. Of course the Snake's OC is 6 and his family has no clue even though I've known for a year so he's right on track

Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
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