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StillLivin posted 5/3/2014 19:43 PM

I broke NC.
He was being his usual idiot self, but it was affecting my attorney fees...as in jacking up higher and higher.
I know my H. Been with him for 10 years. I've always know I could have kept him from "choosing' her if I kissed his ass, rugswept, and let him be by his terms. FTS. I refused to sell my soul and eat his shit and feed him the kibbles. So, did nothing when he came home and told me over and over, "I'm really leaving you. I am packing now!"
Showed him the door. The bell rang, and he was served LS papers. Boy was he pissed. He thought Mami was going to do some begging and instead she held the door open and helped him pack.
Stupid fucker.
BUT, I'm already at $9,000 in the hole with the D attorney and they want another $1,500. I'm not employed, don't have it.
Bit the bullet and broke NC. I was worried about getting hurt, cuz NC=No New Hurts.
In the past it was for my own protection. I'm not super woman, this A shit brought me to me knees and almost broke me, KWIM!
I fed him some kibbles. Fed him some more.
And he poured out like an avalanche. The stupid shit he said. Then the "Oh, I'm so broke and life is so hard" shit. WTFEva.
But, he is going next week and signing the Consent Decree for D!!!!!!!
OH, and I learned how much he paid in taxes this year...didn't ask. I learned that life is not so good in Unicorn Fartland, didn't ask.
He was hurt and offended that 1 I am D'ing his crazy ass, and 2 I humiliated him when he was served in front of his cough, hack, ahem, "girlfriend"
I am still evil, treated him like a paycheck, am not as devout as Miss Catholic, didn't love him enough, hurt him throughout the M, and was emotionally abusive for years!

justinpaintoday posted 5/3/2014 19:52 PM

Congartulations on neing so eveil in the eyes of your wayward. I become crueller and more horrible everyday in her mind. In addition our M has gone from 1 bad year to 2 to 5 and will likely be 10 or more by the time she moves out. I keep wondering if these waywards have an extra chromosome or perhaps are getting BS injections somewhere.

SBB posted 5/3/2014 20:18 PM

Rewriting the marital history is very common - remember this is how most of them told themselves that it was OK to cheat in the first place.

I hope he signs but I expect more fuckery. He won't give up the ego kibbles so easily. He'll do whatever he can for as long as he can to keep the bakery open.

Gemini71 posted 5/3/2014 20:44 PM

You have the perfect negotiation tool if you're willing to use it. Tell him that if he doesn't contest the D, you won't contest the Annulment he'll obviously need for Miss Catholic.

StillLivin posted 5/3/2014 23:08 PM

Pain
SBB, He won't want to look like the bad guy to the attorney. Besides I'm going to hand feed him the kibbles at the attorney's office. He is salivating!
Gemini71, He told her he couldn't D me (he can't Covenant M in the state of AZ) and that I would never let him go. I think that was his ace in the whole to shut her whining up about getting M. Tee hee heee, he was served in front of her! She knows better now. C'est la vie, though, I'm Catholic too (and I actually am more devout than nasty panties) as well, so I will look more into an annulment when I've got a little more time. Of course, he doesn't know that.

justjim posted 5/4/2014 11:18 AM

Yep. Rewriting the marital history seems to be pretty common, from what I read here.
When I received a copy of stbx's affidavit after our first hearing, I had to ask myself if we had been living in the same marriage.

Silly question.

Brandon808 posted 5/4/2014 11:45 AM

He told her he couldn't D me (he can't Covenant M in the state of AZ) and that I would never let him go. I think that was his ace in the whole to shut her whining up about getting M. Tee hee heee, he was served in front of her! She knows better now.

I love this! Nothing but the truth and the natural consequences of his actions. Awesome!

StillLivin posted 5/4/2014 11:54 AM

You know, I wonder why they continue to demonize us after we let them go, no longer care what they did, and the M is dead! He got what he said he wanted. If I made him so miserable, he should be happy. Happy people aren't nasty to others. Go figure. Her problem now.

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