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Bluebird26 posted 5/4/2014 01:19 AM

You f***** a******* don't you dare cry poor to me claiming you can't pay your 1/2 of our son's sport fee of $40 (each) when you went on an overseas last week for a holiday and when you owe me $X for the last 2 months medical expenses. You are a lousy piece of shit, start putting your kids needs before your own when I am struggling to make ends meet and living pay check to pay check and killing myself doing it provide the basics for our kids.

FTG

Forgive me, I have reached indifference and generally don't give a shit about what he does and doesn't do but this was the just the straw the broke the camels back today. I give my kids 120% and he gives them nothing except the Disney Dad act. I know my kids can see exactly what he is doing but it still hurts when they ask me for things and I can't afford it. Urrrgghhh.

FTG.

Rant over, back to ignoring that he is wasting oxygen on the same planet again.

[This message edited by Bluebird26 at 1:23 AM, May 4th (Sunday)]

Nature_Girl posted 5/4/2014 01:28 AM

I truly would like to give these losers all a collective beat down.

thebighurt posted 5/4/2014 01:44 AM

((((Bluebird26 & kids)))) Sorry you have such a loser to deal with. They really have no concept of anyone's needs but their own. And then it only matters what they *want* RIGHT NOW.

SBB posted 5/4/2014 03:01 AM

Rant away, mamma. He is a poor excuse for a human being, an even poorer excuse for a father.

I don't think we'll ever reach indifference about this kind of shit.

Do you have court orders for 50/50 costs? Keep a record of all he owes and keep requesting it. One day it will be a large enough sum to start pursuing him.

Even if he never pays it at least you'll have a dollar amount to remind him of what a failure of a father he is. They all seem to think CS is inclusive of this stuff.

Bluebird26 posted 5/4/2014 04:56 AM

Yeah we do have court orders which he continually breaks but I don't have the funds to take him to court so at the end of the day it's really worth nothing. And he is a classic NPD so he won't even care if he gets a letter from my lawyer, he thinks he is above the law

He continually hides from the CS agency here, they try to garnish his wages once that starts he leaves the employer. The trouble is he works contract work so by the time they find him he jumps contracts. And here CS is not a legal obligation it's a moral one. And even though he doesn't have the children as per the court orders the CS won't adjust his CS payment because of the orders. It's like a vicious circle.

I just keep my records and one day hopefully he will get his just desserts

SBB posted 5/4/2014 05:44 AM

You don't need a lawyer to modify the orders. Keep detailed records of the time he does/doesn't have them them and apply for a change based on that evidence.

The amounts aren't huge anyway - something. Like 15k p/a for 2 kids even if you do have them 100% of the time. Have you done the online calcs? It's pretty shocking.

CS will accrue forever so he will pay what the CSA calculates one way or another. It might be garnished out of his income for the rest of his life.

Give him enough rope, friend. He will come unstuck.

tesla posted 5/4/2014 08:30 AM

Bluebird, you are heard. I also just sent ex-shat the receipt for summer soccer camp (which Teslet begged to do again this summer). I know he won't pay for it as he owes me for so much other stuff. But for some sick reason, I enjoy sending him the schedule of practice times and receipt with the following note: "Should you want to contribute to this extra-curricular, your half would be $50."

What I'd like to say, "Hey you piece of shit, I don't even know why I'm sending you this schedule because it's not like you have the balls to show up and support your son at something he loves. By the way, giving your son these experiences costs money...so you know, feel free to contribute to the quality of life of your child if you're not too busy being a dick."
Fuck these guys.

Phew! I feel better now too

[This message edited by tesla at 8:31 AM, May 4th (Sunday)]

Bluebird26 posted 5/5/2014 05:23 AM

Thanks, glad your feeling better too Tesla

hopefulfourus posted 5/5/2014 07:21 AM

Wow, sounds like our POS' were made from the same mold....mine RARELY attends ANY of my sons or daughters events. It breaks my heart for them. However, his "appearance" to his friends is what matters most! JERKS!!

Chrysalis123 posted 5/5/2014 07:46 AM

NPDx wont pay extra curriculars either. He feels child support should cover everything. he makes 6 figures, I am a teacher.

Just asked him what he plans to contribute to college. College is not a mandated expense in my state and it cannot be put in the orders.

You guesses it: he refused to answer.

My kids and I will figure this out. FTG

And I totally get your rant. (((((Hugs to us all)))))

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