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Brandon808 posted 5/4/2014 22:50 PM

I struggle with this a lot, especially these days. Not just about my broken picker, which IC seems to have helped a lot in repairing, but about a lot of choices I made and the ones I didn't make.
I called my sister who said it brilliantly and succinctly. Regret is a poison. I'm trying to let the poison out of my system and keep it from coming back. It's not easy for me though but being on SI helps. My family and friends help.
It's easy for all of us to have those feelings. So many changes to our lives that we never wanted and didn't ask for.

I wanted to post this as a reminder not only for myself but for anyone who feels this way. A reminder to let go of the feelings of regret. To keep letting them go because it doesn't help us live our lives. At least it doesn't help me live mine.

nowiknow23 posted 5/4/2014 23:01 PM

((((Brandon)))) Great reminder.

LosferWords posted 5/5/2014 00:09 AM

((Brandon))

Wonderful insight. I really appreciated reading this tonight. Very helpful to anyone in New Beginnings or in any other part of this site.

norabird posted 5/5/2014 00:10 AM

Thanks Brandon. I just re -read The Unbearable Lightness of Being. It touches a lot on the idea that life/history only happen once--you never know what the outcomes of other decisions would be. There's no way of testing other possible choices or running back the tape to experiment with doing things differently. It's true and part of why we have to be forgiving of our mistakes and do our best with where our past has led us.

one2ndchance posted 5/5/2014 00:59 AM

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” --Alexander Graham Bell

Williesmom posted 5/5/2014 07:23 AM

Thanks, Brandon. As we move closer towards Mother's Day, I can feel the regret creeping in that I chose not to have children.

This is a tough week, for sure.

trumanshow posted 5/5/2014 08:46 AM

My first read-through I read it as "broken pecker" which made little sense

I think we all have regrets. I remind myself that if I had stayed the list would be longer

better4me posted 5/5/2014 09:25 AM

I think we all have regrets. I remind myself that if I had stayed the list would be longer

^^^^This^^^^

Brandon808 posted 5/5/2014 20:55 PM

Thank you
(((nowiknow23)))
(((LosferWords)))
(((norabird)))
(((one2ndchance)))
(((williesmom)))
(((trumanshow)))
and (((better4me)))

SBB posted 5/5/2014 21:01 PM

I need this reminder today. My head knows it but the heart is a little harder to convince. Still dripping with regret but at least it is significantly less than last year.

I think we all have regrets. I remind myself that if I had stayed the list would be longer.

I'm also reminded of a quote that still speaks to me:

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.- Oursler"