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Topic: Regrets
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Brandon808
♂ 35619
Member # 35619 |  Posted: 10:50 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014 |     |
I struggle with this a lot, especially these days. Not just about my broken picker, which IC seems to have helped a lot in repairing, but about a lot of choices I made and the ones I didn't make.
I called my sister who said it brilliantly and succinctly. Regret is a poison. I'm trying to let the poison out of my system and keep it from coming back. It's not easy for me though but being on SI helps. My family and friends help.
It's easy for all of us to have those feelings. So many changes to our lives that we never wanted and didn't ask for.
I wanted to post this as a reminder not only for myself but for anyone who feels this way. A reminder to let go of the feelings of regret. To keep letting them go because it doesn't help us live our lives. At least it doesn't help me live mine.
xBH
D final 8/2012
Posts: 4256 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 11:01 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014 | |
((((Brandon)))) Great reminder. 
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28436 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
LosferWords
♂ 30369
Member # 30369 | | Posted: 12:09 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014 | |
((Brandon))
Wonderful insight. I really appreciated reading this tonight. Very helpful to anyone in New Beginnings or in any other part of this site.
Posts: 10765 | Registered: Dec 2010 |
norabird
♀ 42092
Member # 42092 | | Posted: 12:10 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014 | |
Thanks Brandon. I just re -read The Unbearable Lightness of Being. It touches a lot on the idea that life/history only happen once--you never know what the outcomes of other decisions would be. There's no way of testing other possible choices or running back the tape to experiment with doing things differently. It's true and part of why we have to be forgiving of our mistakes and do our best with where our past has led us.
Sit. Feast on your life.
Posts: 4282 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC |
one2ndchance
♀ 14759
Member # 14759 | | Posted: 12:59 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014 | |
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” --Alexander Graham Bell
Me: BW 60
Him: STBXWH 62
Married: 25 years
DDay1: 2/2002; DDay2: 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/2014
Posts: 488 | Registered: May 2007 | From: California |
Williesmom
♀ 22870
Member # 22870 | | Posted: 7:23 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014 | |
Thanks, Brandon. As we move closer towards Mother's Day, I can feel the regret creeping in that I chose not to have children.
This is a tough week, for sure. 
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 7995 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA |
trumanshow
♀ 25624
Member # 25624 | | Posted: 8:46 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014 | |
My first read-through I read it as "broken pecker" which made little sense 
I think we all have regrets. I remind myself that if I had stayed the list would be longer
Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.
The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed
Posts: 1764 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC |
better4me
♀ 30341
Member # 30341 | | Posted: 9:25 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014 | |
I think we all have regrets. I remind myself that if I had stayed the list would be longer
^^^^This^^^^
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced
Posts: 3269 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa |
Brandon808
♂ 35619
Member # 35619 | | Posted: 8:55 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014 | |
Thank you
(((nowiknow23)))
(((LosferWords)))
(((norabird)))
(((one2ndchance)))
(((williesmom)))
(((trumanshow)))
and (((better4me)))
xBH
D final 8/2012
Posts: 4256 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast |
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229 | | Posted: 9:01 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014 | |
I need this reminder today. My head knows it but the heart is a little harder to convince. Still dripping with regret but at least it is significantly less than last year.
I think we all have regrets. I remind myself that if I had stayed the list would be longer.
^^Too true.
I'm also reminded of a quote that still speaks to me:
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.- Oursler"
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Posts: 5849 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia |
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