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User Topic: Not looking but dammit
♀ 27088
Member # 27088
Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I am not looking to start dating, too soon. I am moving between departments while I complete my last weeks with the company. My last 2 days with the last group and I meet this beautiful manager, I don't use that word often to describe men but its fitting. He has gone out of his way to talk to me since we were introduced.... Makes eye contact while he's off in the distance talking to others.

I had to pass by him to move the rest of my stuff out and he falls all over himself to offer to help me. As I smile and decline I see the very obvious silver he's not so beautiful, he's the devil in disguise. Lol.

Oh well I know this is going to be something I am going to run into every where. I need to stock up on married DB spray.

BW(me) 36
WH-36 SA
Three kids 18, 16 and 9
Married 18 years.
Multiple D-Days, multiple OW and an OC
12/19/03,5/13/2004,12/5/2009, 2/20/2014
I am no longer a guest on the Jerry Springer Show.

Posts: 1327 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Florida
♂ 42231
Member # 42231
Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe it's me trying to see the bright side, but I'll throw something out there. I have not one, but 2 divorced male employees. One has been divorced for 3 or 4 years now and is in a committed relationship with a new woman. The other finalized his divorce a little before mine. They both wear their wedding bands still. I also have a close friend who wore his wedding band from his first marriage up until he proposed to his current wife. It feels weird not wearing mine honestly. I still have mini-panic attacks when I don't feel it on my finger, then I remember...

Point is while I don't know that it's a common thing among divorced folks, I personally know 3 men (who all btw were cheated on in their marriages) who still wear the ring because it's "habit" now. Then again, it's entirely possible that manager is a lying cheating douchebag. I just know that there are good honest men out there who will treat you right once you're ready to get back out there. In the meantime, keep that married DB spray handy

"Character is the ability to follow through on commitments that were made in moments of high resolve even when we no longer feel like it." Carl Andersen

Posts: 3091 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
♀ 42092
Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need to stock up on married DB spray.

Hopefully a non-married, non-douchebag one will come along eventually.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
♂ 32258
Member # 32258
Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need to stock up on married DB spray.
That's on the utility belt right next to the shark repellant spray right? Don't worry renee, there will be other "beautiful" single men out there. Just consider this practice at weeding out the DB's.

D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

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