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User Topic: So much joy
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know so many people think I'm crazy for having 4 dogs, but they are really the only things that I can count on in my life.

Last night, I woke up in the middle of the night to find one of the snuggled up tight against me, sound asleep. He was from the shelter, and his walls are nearly as high as mine.

I rubbed his head for a bit. He never quit snoring, but his tail stump wagged the entire time.

I guess it's the love with no expectations, no demands. Just pure joy that we get to live together and hang out. It's mutual joy, I guess.

What I'm trying to say is that we all find peace in the most unexpected times and places.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7862 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was from the shelter, and his walls are nearly as high as mine.

Oh this gave me a lump in my throat.

My skittish girl rescue cat trembled 24/7 for the first few weeks. We are a year out and I often wake to find her being my big spoon or curled up in my arms. If I move or open my eyes in the night she starts purring loudly and grooms me. My big boy sleeps with his paws tangled up in my hair and face nuzzled into my head.

Their purrs are more like roars at these quiet times. I could weep for the beauty of the moment. Pure joy. Trust. Love.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5733 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Right now I have my rescue from 11 years ago and my daughters kitten as she is away. The don't like each other much, but are taking turns sleeping with me.

Fun.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5736 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
cayc
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I told Little Dude just this morning that everything I went through with xWH was worth it since it brought me my little guy!


"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott

Posts: 3201 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Having our own houseload of furbabies, I completely understand and agree with your sentiment.

They truly give us so much...and ask for so little in return.

I love furpeople!


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6736 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
norabird
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so happy you have them Williesmom!


Sit. Feast on your life.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know with my husky rescue, I get so much joy out of watching her run full tilt in the backyard and then run up to me and play bow.

I love that she knows I'm about to go upstairs to bed...I go to the stairs and she's right there with me, walking up the stairs, curling up in her bed in my room. I. Love. That.

So happy your furbabies bring you such joy.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:43 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I loved sleeping with my first mastiff when the X wasn't home. She snored like a muffled chain saw and chased imaginary who-knows-whats in her sleep, but I felt so safe with her around. My 160 lb lap dog


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

Posts: 20548 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My "divorce dog" is almost always at my feet. I can just reach down and pet him and we both fall a little more in puppy love (although now he is 18 months old!)

great post.


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4279 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 6:53 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aaawwww.....your post makes me smile. We get so much from our furbabies and they ask so little in return. My shelter rescue, after he totally destroyed the house as a puppy, turned into my best dog ever. He is exceedingly intelligent, understands what I say, has boundless energy, and is very protective of his pack.

I give him stuffed animals from time to time. If he has one he really likes, he will sleep with it in his mouth for weeks before finally ripping it to shreds....


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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lifestoshort
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

aww, thats great. Glad things are going well and you can see the little things in life to smile.

Im there too. Its really great when our path becomes cleared.


6/07 EX had MANY affairs.
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09

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wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My big guy made the move down with me and he's been pretty clingy in the new environment.... He's made himself home on the kingsize bed like he did in Okieland...

Like all of you... I've got a stronger bond with my big guy because of the backstabbing I was subjected to by the ex...

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 6004 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this, Williesmom.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3266 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this - my dogs are a handful at times, but I couldn't survive without them. They sleep on the other side of my kingsize bed every night and are always here for me. <3


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4712 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
stronggirl72
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes! Love these happy posts.


"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."

DIVORCED!!


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gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't even imagine getting through the last year without my dog. He's licked away many, many tears, and made me smile on days when I was sure I couldn't.

Absolutely trustworthy, loyal, unconditional love. It feels so good.


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 4:59 AM, May 9th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh that is so sweet.

I am jealous though. My oldest DS is highly allergic to all fur & feathered babies. It's not fair. It's harder for him he loves animals just can't be near them.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, May 9th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel the same! I have a white Boxer and also a black cat with white paws. My Boxer is such great company. Every morning he leans against the back of my leg as I'm putting on makeup and getting ready for work. He also sways his backside underneath the dresses in my closet...I think that's how he 'pets himself.' It's hilarious.

I'm so glad that the STBX left him, and the cat, with me. It's the one decent thing he did, although I think he might have taken at least the dog if he had a bigger place to live.


BS: 34
WS: 36 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
2 OC, one 6 yrs old and the other a few months (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, May 9th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad that so many of us have fur babies.

Everyone laughed when I made sure that "all owned pets" were to be mine in the MSA. I wasn't going to risk that!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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