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JustOneMoreDay posted 5/5/2014 20:40 PM

I am having a very bad day.

I hate the OW and today, I can say the same for WS.

I found out about the A in march when the OW called me at work and said she was pregnant(I don't believe she is). I was unsuspecting. Previously, the stupid cow had come into my place of wok and I had served her. I saw texts where she told WS about it. She got off on it, I think. I didn't know he was cheating so I didn't memorize her face. She was just another customer.

After Dday, she sent me numerous cruel and very detailed emails. She got off on that too. Today, she showed up at my job AGAIN. I wasn't 100% sure it was her. She walked right up to me and asked where the bathroom was. I told her and started helping someone else( I work in a high end store). It wasn't until I was able to look up her purchase after she left, that I was certain it was her.

I hate her. I know we aren't suppose to give any headspace to the ho-bags but she has shown up at my job, bombarded me with emails until I blocked her, and threatened to send messages to my kids. I hate her. Right now, I hate him too. I hate infidelity. I hate my life.

Seriously, how does one human do this to another?

isadora posted 5/5/2014 21:02 PM

I am sorry. OW2 in my sitch be-friended me during the A, the whole time she was being my "friend" she was screwing my WH and planning with him on how best to D both BS and live happily ever after. I have no idea how either of them managed to live with themselves, but they did and probably got off on it too.

Lovedyoumore posted 5/5/2014 21:28 PM

What does your H say about this?

JustOneMoreDay posted 5/5/2014 21:42 PM

He is horrified or, at least, says and acts like he is but I don't trust my own judgement enough to tell if he is bing truthful.

Lovedyoumore posted 5/5/2014 23:25 PM

Your H needs to send her a very short, sharply worded NC letter that includes you. Send it registered mail and keep a copy of the letter as well as the mail receipt. First time she breaks it, call the police. I would also document all contact on a calendar while you can recall places, dates and times.

Ostrich80 posted 5/6/2014 00:13 AM

Exactly what lovedyoumore said. My sister had to deal with an ow that would come into her job and have my sister ring.her up, not knowing she was the ow. She found out when the ow bragged about it to a mutual friend who told my sister. Yea its definitely a chicken shit move and they do get some kind of sick pleasure.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 12:17 AM, May 6th (Tuesday)]

StillLivin posted 5/6/2014 00:25 AM

You need to start researching what the requirements are for a harassment restraining order. When the bunny boilers get this brazen, they may be very dangerous.
I'm sure you saved her crazy messages.
I hope I'm wrong and she eventually goes away, but I've experienced this kind of crazy before.
Best to be prepared and safe than sorry.

JustOneMoreDay posted 5/6/2014 08:11 AM

I would really rather not send her a NC letter because WS has already sent her one. He also changed his phone numbers, blocked her email, deactivated his FB, etc. I don't want to encourage anymore contact.

At least now I know exactly what she looks like. I actually have video of her masturbating and a couple of photos but my heart is so raw right now that I can't bring myself to go back and look at them again. Next time, I will be better prepared.

SpecialK posted 5/6/2014 17:50 PM

I would wait on her if she comes in again, and let her know that if you see or hear from her again, the video of her pleasuring herself will find it's way to everyone she knows. Then smile and walk away.

Ostrich80 posted 5/6/2014 20:51 PM

Wait you have a video of her masturbating and she's acting iike a megabitch to you? Does she know you have the video? Ooohhh boy, you have the golden egg, don't be afraid to
use it..or at least threaten to use it.

Vulcanized posted 5/6/2014 23:08 PM

JOMD,

I'm sorry you are dealing with this garbage at work. Is there any way you can get her banned from your store?

It's a special layer of hell when you work w/the public, and OW comes to your job. XH's piglet came into my bar at least once that I'm aware of.

I would document everything I have, send the registered NC to you letter, signature required. Tell her any further contact is harassment, and you will pursue legal options. If she violates it in any way, slap the bitch w/a PPO or a RO.

If she violates it in person, I'd tell her I had the video. Then I'd let her know not to fuck w/me. I wouldn't threaten, I'd just unleash it. Maybe shame will make the OW go away.

PM if you want further info.

Notsignificant posted 5/6/2014 23:29 PM

Can you tell upper management she's harassing you and have her banned from the store? You don't have to tell them why she's harassing you just that she is. How fun for you that she comes in to taunt you and ends up escorted out and embarrassed.

JustOneMoreDay posted 5/7/2014 08:11 AM

I am the upper management so I could have kicked her out. I was caught off guard. Next time, I will be better prepared.

I kept the video with plans to use it if I needed to at some point. However, I think she might like that and secondly, she may or may not also have a video of WS. I have teenage children and I am worried she would find a way to send it to them.

JLyn1128 posted 5/7/2014 08:29 AM

Oh, man... the idea of having a video like that would just make my day. The OW in my case was sending me texts all the time calling me names I can't even write out, much less say. WBF sent a NC email and that set her off royally, then he shut down the gmail account and she has no other way to contact him, so she abuses me. I take a perverse pleasure in it because, based on the content of the texts, it is proof he's not contacting her any more. And, I admit with a little shame, I enjoy her pain. I have pictures she sent of her naked breasts. I keep them in a file. I fantasized for a long time about humiliating ways to use them... WBF suggested she wouldn't be humiliated at all. But I keep them for now. The texts have died down as she is moving on... I hope. WBF would apologize every time I got a message...but really, it just let him see what level of crazy he brought into our lives.

TheBestMe posted 5/7/2014 08:31 AM

I take a perverse pleasure in it because, based on the content of the texts, it is proof he's not contacting her any more. And, I admit with a little shame, I enjoy her pain

^^^^