Trouble is, it's usually me that makes contact.
I am trying to resist to see if he gets in touch. But I kind of already know it's not enough for me.
I have had the conversation with him several times. I don't believe he is doing anything he shouldn't but he's also not doing what we agreed.
I feel like he's not valuing me or even thinking about me. His A happened on a business trip, so it's bound to be an issue.
Drives me mad.
If he doesn't what are the consequences?
Sorry you're feeling this way. I understand, my H has also had to travel and it is nerve racking!
It's been 5 years since DDay, there has been a tremendous amount of TT. Since his affair happened while he was away on business, I am still not comfortable with him traveling to certain cities.
Fortunately, our children are grown, and I have an open invitation to travel with him. Lately, I have turned him down, but I do expect him to call me several times daily and especially when he gets to his hotel room. He doesn't know, but occasionally when he travels, I do check his phone bill. He might have a bat phone, but at this point, I believe that he doesn't. Often, a simple text will do.
I told her if she wanted to R a new job without travel would be a requirement. She looked at me like I had five heads. Right then and there i knew she choose her work over me. And knew her decision was already made. If he truly loves you he will begin to look for another job. I don't buy into the "I can never leave my job, you don't understand.". It's bullshit. Get your resume updated and start looking. Jobs are replaceable...families are not.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley
It's like that Break Up movie, I want him to want to call me. It is kind of a who-calls-first game because I hate the knock back when he says he's busy, or eating, or anything - when I have held off texting or calling.
I just need to be able to relax about this and trust that he will call me when he can. I don't think about what he's doing, I just want him to make time for me. Like you said, they make time for the OP - whatever they're doing!
Also AD's really helped the obsessiveness in the early years.