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User Topic: does he think of me? and why do i care?
♀ 42972
Member # 42972
Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was with my ex for 7 years .. left me for his ex that he claimed was his friend , DDay was Sept 2012, we broke up Aug 2012, I havent spoken to him since then. I would say I have made mountains of healing , I no longer cry or am depressed but here and there he pops in my head. I have a new boyfriend I care for , and the new boyfriend adores me and would never hurt me . BUt yet I still think of the ex. I dont think I want him , I just wonder now that the dust has settled if he thinks of me?

We broke up, he wouldnt tell me why until I confronted him and he finally admitted he got back with his ex from before me, behind my back. He turned evil when I found out, screamed and laughed in my face that he was with the love of his life (when barely weeks before I was still his gf) I was numb and in shock someone could be so cruel. She hurt him alot when they were together and never wanted him and suddenly now she wanted him and he discarded me. I think of all the trips, memories, good times ( I know its easier to do this then think of reality) and I think of how he moved in her in and got her knocked up and rushed everyting , he didnt respect that I want a career before a family, I dont want to mooch or live off of him like this girl.... why do I still care? Im mad at myself today for thinking of him , its been almost TWO YEARS SINCE WEVE SPOKE !!!!!!!!!!! :(

7 years together
no children

OW was his ex he always convinced was his friend .. moved in her and knocked her up , got together behind my back

Ddays : many in 2009 and 2010
final dday : Sept 2012 after being broken up 3 w

Posts: 73 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: CA
♂ 42858
Member # 42858
Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

shygirl: It's okay. You loved him deeply. There will always be a place for him in your heart. It may have ended bad but I am sure you had many beautiful memories too. It is okay to remember those fondly. When you do try and wish him well in your heart and let him go again.

BTW I am sure he thinks of you on occasion as well. I still think of girlfriends from 20 years ago on occasion. Although those weren;t the right relationship and they ended, I still remember the good times and wish them well

I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
♀ 42092
Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 12:35 AM, May 7th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


On many ways you have moved on--kudos! For the remainder, have you tried reading a bookmobile Living and Loving After Betrayal by Steven Stosny? I found that resource helpful. Occasional anger I think is warranted--but continued bitterness only hurts you.

Remember that the best revenge is living well. If he doesn't know what he lost in you, more fool he.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
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