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shygirl07 posted 5/6/2014 21:09 PM

I was with my ex for 7 years .. left me for his ex that he claimed was his friend , DDay was Sept 2012, we broke up Aug 2012, I havent spoken to him since then. I would say I have made mountains of healing , I no longer cry or am depressed but here and there he pops in my head. I have a new boyfriend I care for , and the new boyfriend adores me and would never hurt me . BUt yet I still think of the ex. I dont think I want him , I just wonder now that the dust has settled if he thinks of me?

We broke up, he wouldnt tell me why until I confronted him and he finally admitted he got back with his ex from before me, behind my back. He turned evil when I found out, screamed and laughed in my face that he was with the love of his life (when barely weeks before I was still his gf) I was numb and in shock someone could be so cruel. She hurt him alot when they were together and never wanted him and suddenly now she wanted him and he discarded me. I think of all the trips, memories, good times ( I know its easier to do this then think of reality) and I think of how he moved in her in and got her knocked up and rushed everyting , he didnt respect that I want a career before a family, I dont want to mooch or live off of him like this girl.... why do I still care? Im mad at myself today for thinking of him , its been almost TWO YEARS SINCE WEVE SPOKE !!!!!!!!!!! :(

justinpaintoday posted 5/6/2014 21:21 PM

shygirl: It's okay. You loved him deeply. There will always be a place for him in your heart. It may have ended bad but I am sure you had many beautiful memories too. It is okay to remember those fondly. When you do try and wish him well in your heart and let him go again.

BTW I am sure he thinks of you on occasion as well. I still think of girlfriends from 20 years ago on occasion. Although those weren;t the right relationship and they ended, I still remember the good times and wish them well

norabird posted 5/7/2014 00:35 AM

((((Shygirl))))

On many ways you have moved on--kudos! For the remainder, have you tried reading a bookmobile Living and Loving After Betrayal by Steven Stosny? I found that resource helpful. Occasional anger I think is warranted--but continued bitterness only hurts you.

Remember that the best revenge is living well. If he doesn't know what he lost in you, more fool he.