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Stop  Posted: 11:47 AM, May 7th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How long have you been in MC and IC and how often do you go?

Posts: 57 | Registered: May 2014
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, May 7th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We don't go anymore but we went for about 3 years (IC and MC) after d-day and then I'd go back every once in awhile for a 'tune up'. Usually not A-related, but for other life stuff. I love IC and I probably should go steadily because it really helps me!

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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, May 7th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's been a little over 3 months since dday, but I've been in IC for about 3 months and I go every week. I have changed counselors 3 times and I am seeing the same counselor BBF is seeing. But she is wonderful. It was worth switching a few times.

WGF - 24
BBF - MercilesslyNuked, 30
DDay 1 - 1/6/14
DDay 2 - 1/23/14

I Am Strong! I Am Beautiful! I Am Smart! I Am Worthy!

Posts: 131 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Colorado
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, May 7th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been in IC for 2+ years and am still hopeful that my wife will go to MC with me at some time in the future. She gave me a chance in MC in the past and I blew it with my lies so she is understandably not interested anymore.

Me: WH
Father of 3 beautiful girls and a toddler boy

Posts: 750 | Registered: Jan 2013
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We started MC just a few days after DDay. Since then, she's been our MC and our IC. There were short times when we didn't meet with her at all (maybe a couple of weeks) and times when we were meeting with her 4 times a week (3 IC each and 1 MC). Now we are at 1 or 2 IC a week and no MC sessions. However, we are meeting a new counselor next week, so the schedule will probably change.

Him: BH 1969
Me: WW 1973

Wedding: April 9, 1994

Son: 1998 (college freshman)
Son: 2002 (high school freshman)

Caught at AP's house: 10 Aug 2012

I do not have it all together.

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