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So I've been doing EMDR for a few months, as some of you may already know.. latest target has to do with my dad and it released a lot of anger and frustration.

Last night I had this extremely violent dream that ended with a fight to the death with my dad or something that represented him, and in this particular dream I won. I think it may symbolize me fighting against the part of him that stays with me in my head to this day.

I'll note that in the past I've often had violent dreams, but this one was super incredibly violent and it ended with a really gory death. And strangely enough, when I woke up I was smiling and feeling really awesome about it for a few seconds until I got my bearings. Weird stuff. Now I feel strange about the dream but part of me still feels happy that, at least in this particular dream, I destroyed a monster.

There are psychological theories that say every aspect of our dream is a part of ourselves. I think your sense that you were fighting the part of him that had control in your head is probably right. Good for you for defeating that part! The violence probably just represents how difficult the struggle was for you. More reason to be proud!

I also believe that our dreams definitely mean something as far as our unconscious. I think you successfully fought your issues with your father, and won!