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User Topic: interesting dream, probably related to emdr
♂ 37468
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I've been doing EMDR for a few months, as some of you may already know.. latest target has to do with my dad and it released a lot of anger and frustration.

Last night I had this extremely violent dream that ended with a fight to the death with my dad or something that represented him, and in this particular dream I won. I think it may symbolize me fighting against the part of him that stays with me in my head to this day.

I'll note that in the past I've often had violent dreams, but this one was super incredibly violent and it ended with a really gory death. And strangely enough, when I woke up I was smiling and feeling really awesome about it for a few seconds until I got my bearings. Weird stuff. Now I feel strange about the dream but part of me still feels happy that, at least in this particular dream, I destroyed a monster.

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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are psychological theories that say every aspect of our dream is a part of ourselves. I think your sense that you were fighting the part of him that had control in your head is probably right. Good for you for defeating that part! The violence probably just represents how difficult the struggle was for you. More reason to be proud!

D-Day: 6/5/09, drunken ONS on business trip, confessed immediately, transparent, remorseful but emotionally clueless
M 11 years, 3 kids
4/12 Tried to R for 3 years, have decided to D
12/31/12 D final

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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also believe that our dreams definitely mean something as far as our unconscious. I think you successfully fought your issues with your father, and won!

BW - 40
DD - 7 years old
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

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