When/How do Waywards earn their F's??
Together 9 years
DDay: June 24, 2013
When it finally all came out, he hit bottom. He spent the next year in IC and a support group. He spent the the year recommitting to his family. He grew as a man, husband, dad, friend. That's when he earned his F.
7 years later, he is now *just* my H.
We had gotten there, then he had relapsed, and became WH, again... He's earning the f. But it's scary. We are at a point where his remorse almost causes more anxiety than comfort... Because I am starting to trust... And it's scary to even consider! After 2 ddays, I am a little leery of allowing myself this trust...
About 2 years after that, he lost his W. He is now just H. But once again, he had to continue to earn that. I do not hurt daily and feel safe most of the time. Without his work and dedication, he would not have lost it.
So...it is individual to each of us. I think your husband earns his F when you think he has earned it. ...an you believe he is now in "former" wayward status.
Good luck to you!
But that's us. Everyone on their own path, their own timetable.