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So BH is a police officer. OMM was a police officer with the same department as well at the time of our A. We have something called an explorer program, where kids from the age of 15 up until 21 (yes we know they are not kids but you can not be a police officer in my town until 21 so they keep them in this group) can learn about policing if it's a carreer they are interested in. they have ridealongs and everything else.
There is an explorer in paticular who in the past 2 or 3 years has kinda gotten under BH's Wing. he's his protege so to speak. well he was closed to OMM as well. BH when he found out about the A decided not to tell him about it, as he didn't want to mess up the explorers working relationship with OMM.
well today explorer posts a picture status on facebook. talking about how in the past few years 2 people have been so great to him and are the two people he looks up to most and have shaped him into who he is today. and in the status tags BH and OMM...... Oy vey.... i'm not sure if BH has seen it or not yet, he's at home asleep and i am not off work yet, but i am sure weither he has seen it now, or if i have to tell him about it when i get home, we are in for a long night of discussion....... :/

Wishing you the best of luck, Hisbunnyonly. I hope the discussion goes as well as it possibly can for you two. Keep us posted on how things go.

It went well. He of course was frustrated that he was grouped in with AP. But said that he does get it, they are alot alike (if you dont know about AP's lying backstabbing and complete lack of morals) and that the explorer does not know about it so to him it makes sense to group them together. He of course questioned how I saw the post with AP being blocked and I had to pull up my fb and show him AP was still blocked and thst I could see post bc he BH was tagged in it so it showed to me and just put AP's name in regular print instead of a link to his fb. Once all that was squared away everything went pretty well.

Oh yuck. Sorry he had to deal with being clumped in with AP. How weird for him. But I'm glad he didn't trigger terribly.

Really glad to hear the conversation went well.

Big positive on the communication front. I don't see how you could have handled it any better than you did. You talking about this and being transparent with your FB account were the right things to do.

He may or may not trigger about this in the days to come, despite his initial reaction. Be prepared for this just in case, and continue to be open to him and there for him.

[This message edited by LosferWords at 11:56 PM, May 9th (Friday)]