How did your WH or XWH react to being served? Especially if they're NPD or if you're in-house separated?
He came home last night to babysit the kids for me.
^^^This is an interesting way of putting it. A parent doesn't "babysit" their own children. Time spent with your children is called "raising them." Also saying "for me" makes it sound like he was doing you a favor.
Jesss....it seems like you view your role as a wife and mother as your responsibility, and it is. But your WH has or had a responsibility also. He has/had a responsibility to be a loyal husband and a nurturing father. Obviously he's failed, but that isn't your fault.
It sounds like he's giving you the silent treatment as punishment for having him served. If he's NPD, this shouldn't surprise you.
I almost feel bad..
How bad do you think he felt when he was trolling for women to cheat on you? Bad enough to stop doing it?
You wanna play with me, you're gonna pay!
I didn't feel bad at all. He cheated with an ugly fat ass whore at work, what did he expect? He sure didn't think I would do it!
One2ndchance: you're right, reading back, saying he babysat sounds silly. I guess just because he wasn't supposed to be home until next week, but he came home from working 2 hours away just because I had to go somewhere that I couldn't take the kids. I do believe he's NPD, I expected him to be crazy angry... This was a different kind of silent treatment than what I normally get... Like he was maybe sad, or ashamed? Or felt betrayed? I don't know, it wasn't like an angry cruel
Silent treatment like usual.
PurpleRose, Stilllivin: that's the reaction I expected, anger!
Oh well I will just be thankful that he hasn't gotten or acted angry yet.
He was livid. I could not believe how mad he was. Dude, you are married, and you just got served divorce papers at the OW's house! WTF are YOU so mad about?
Dude, you are married, and you just got served divorce papers at the OW's house! WTF are YOU so mad about?
He came home last night to babysit the kids for me