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Jesss posted 5/10/2014 10:48 AM

My WH just got served yesterday. We live together but he works out of town. He came home last night to babysit the kids for me. And I called the process server to let them know he was in town for only a night, so he was served while I wasn't home.
I was nervous to come home and see him after. When I got home, he would not even look at me or talk to me.
He barely made eye contact with me or spoke to me at all until he left this morning.
I dunno... I almost feel bad..

How did your WH or XWH react to being served? Especially if they're NPD or if you're in-house separated?

justinpaintoday posted 5/10/2014 11:16 AM

Mine knew I had filed and kept asking for it. Was excited to get it and start moving. R not in our cards obviously.

one2ndchance posted 5/10/2014 12:41 PM

He came home last night to babysit the kids for me.

^^^This is an interesting way of putting it. A parent doesn't "babysit" their own children. Time spent with your children is called "raising them." Also saying "for me" makes it sound like he was doing you a favor.

Jesss....it seems like you view your role as a wife and mother as your responsibility, and it is. But your WH has or had a responsibility also. He has/had a responsibility to be a loyal husband and a nurturing father. Obviously he's failed, but that isn't your fault.

It sounds like he's giving you the silent treatment as punishment for having him served. If he's NPD, this shouldn't surprise you.

I almost feel bad..

How bad do you think he felt when he was trolling for women to cheat on you? Bad enough to stop doing it?

PurpleRose posted 5/10/2014 12:50 PM

The doosh and I were in-house S (the first of 2) when I had him served at work. He came home fit to be tied. He was pissed. Ha!

You wanna play with me, you're gonna pay!

I didn't feel bad at all. He cheated with an ugly fat ass whore at work, what did he expect? He sure didn't think I would do it!

StillLivin posted 5/10/2014 12:55 PM

He was pissed. He was righteous.
He called the attorney and tried to keep them from filing in the court. He wanted me to "wait" til he felt like us being divorced.
I had him served at his and Shrek's luurrve nest!
She, I'm sure, was happy about the whole thing!
Don't even try and wrap your head around the ass backwardness of it all. It will make you crazy if you do.

Jesss posted 5/10/2014 14:21 PM

Justinpaintoday: Mine knew I saw a lawyer, he showed zero signs of wanting to R too. Maybe he just didn't believe Id actually go through with it.

One2ndchance: you're right, reading back, saying he babysat sounds silly. I guess just because he wasn't supposed to be home until next week, but he came home from working 2 hours away just because I had to go somewhere that I couldn't take the kids. I do believe he's NPD, I expected him to be crazy angry... This was a different kind of silent treatment than what I normally get... Like he was maybe sad, or ashamed? Or felt betrayed? I don't know, it wasn't like an angry cruel
Silent treatment like usual.

PurpleRose, Stilllivin: that's the reaction I expected, anger!

Oh well I will just be thankful that he hasn't gotten or acted angry yet.

sparkysable posted 5/11/2014 07:38 AM

I had him served at the OW's house you know, the place he wasn't supposed to be, since they weren't having an affair, and were just friends?

He was livid. I could not believe how mad he was. Dude, you are married, and you just got served divorce papers at the OW's house! WTF are YOU so mad about?

SBB posted 5/11/2014 07:54 AM

Dude, you are married, and you just got served divorce papers at the OW's house! WTF are YOU so mad about?

Sadmumma posted 5/11/2014 12:28 PM

He came home last night to babysit the kids for me

Dads dont babysit. They parent!!! Used to drive me crazy that the moron said this.

Dude, you are married, and you just got served divorce papers at the OW's house! WTF are YOU so mad about?

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