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User Topic: Knowing about trip planned making me crazy
♀ 43241
Member # 43241
Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a mess. I know WH has been fully emotionally involved again with OW. I found out she come through town in March, he went on business in April , so now the trip is planned for May. I just wish he would stop this madness until we are divorced, wishful stupid thinking, I know.

WH used our points and paid for her to come to town next Thursday through Sunday. I'm a wreck. We aren't legally separated, haven't filed for divorce, but he keeps saying we are officially separated since we declared moving to divorce. I guess I knew about the last trip, but I can't cope with this one since I think she is going to his family condo. Coming to our hometown, doing things we do, sitting in our truck. My kids photos are everywhere at condo, I'm even on the wall photos. WH missing our sons last soccer game, the first of many weekends where he will be selfishly missing kids lives for his own pleasure. Makes me sick.

How do I keep myself strong knowing all of this? I want to yell at him so bad, but I know it won't matter. He will just deny deny deny.

Thanks for letting me vent. I had to write this somewhere. Seeing lawyer Monday, I am close to filing, I just want to have mediator scheduled, then I can count down the 3-4 months until court date. I hope that gives me some relief.

D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids in middle school
Divorced 10/2014

Posts: 203 | Registered: Apr 2014
♀ 40306
Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Detach, detach, detach.

FTG. You have to learn not to give a shit what he's doing. It's brutally hard.

As much as we hate it, we have to let go of them.

Try to remind yourself that someone else is dealing with his BS now instead of you. Not your problem.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman

Posts: 5600 | Registered: Aug 2013
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Those points have a monetary value. I hope you can recoup half, you're certainly entitled to them.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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