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User Topic: My Purgatory
♂ 40257
Member # 40257
Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, May 12th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haven't posted on here in awhile. DDay was 7/13. Sep shortly after that. So, after all the grief, etc., here I am, still "sane" after 10mos. I hired a lawyer back last summer, and put forth everything he asked of me to begin "the process". I get notification in early April that STBX finally has a lawyer, or is at least taking action. She lives with the slimeball and is engaged to him! I really don't care at this point(I won't re-explain my sitch cuz I've done so on here in the past). Anyway, God this stuff is slowwwwwww. There should hardly be anything to contest, and I don't believe she's the one making things difficult. Just slow lawyers/legal-stuff I'm guessing.

At this point, man I just wanna move on. I've done almost everything I can to be improve myself and become better than ever. But, I hit the end of the leash because I still have the LEGAL BULLSHIT to wait for! You know, the settling of the house/cars, other assets, the forms to fill, any debt, bla bla bla. Arrrgghhh. I fully cooperate and paid the retaining fee, etc. To me, this should take far less time than it has been. Has this drove anyone else nuts waiting ""patiently"" for the final stages to happen?!

[This message edited by jackfish at 11:22 AM, May 12th (Monday)]

Posts: 88 | Registered: Aug 2013
♀ 40115
Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, May 12th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh hell yes! The legal stuff takes forever, even when the STBX doesn't contest anything!

Part of the delay is just busy lawyers doing their schtick. Okay, I can deal with that. It's frustrating and slow, but at least progress was being made.

Now my idiot STBX is letting his lawyer run up the fees by renegotiating things we've already agreed on! (I'm remembering that there was a reason I handled all the paperwork in our household.)

Sounds like your STBX was too busy living in La-La-Land to deal with reality. She probably only got a lawyer because she suddenly realized, "Oh, I can't get married until I'm divorced." At least she has a reason not to drag it out. But that would require sane reasoning, and we all know how that goes.

But I hear you. The whole process just sucks.

One day
I'm gonna forget your name,
And one sweet day,
you're gonna drown in my lost pain. - "Sweet Sacrifice" by Evanescence

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Posts: 3391 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
♂ 40257
Member # 40257
Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, May 12th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow Gem71, Perfectly put! Thank you. And I wish you the best with YOUR situation.
I know there's an end at some point. But like a rash, my impatience sometimes flares up. Like being stuck in rush-hour traffic, lol.

Posts: 88 | Registered: Aug 2013
♂ 40173
Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, May 12th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As Woody Allen once said, "my wife and I couldn't decide whether we should take a vacation to Bermuda, or get a divorce. We decided on the divorce because a vacation lasts a few days, but a divorce is forever."

You could change that quote to "getting a divorce takes forever".

Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

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