I posted this on another thread...
I started doing the 180, for my own benefit. Gut is one thing you should always listen too. But, paranoia gets a hold of us and changes us into something we never were.
My WH who deceived me while I thought we were in R; who refused transparency and lied pathologically about the silliest things, (I told him it was time for D) now can't help but tell me where he was or what he was doing. And, that is because it's hitting him that I don't care enough to ask.
My WH wanted to answer any of my questions yesterday, but I almost felt set up. He was running late for work and says how are you doing? I say good. He says I'm not so good in the head. I'm just not good. Do you want to talk? I'll tell you anything you want to know.
Now, I've tried talking for a long time, questions got answered with lies. He would blame me he was late for work because I needed to talk about this bullsh*t. So, I said to him No, I wanted to talk before, I wanted questions answered before, so your late for work. He says I'll tell you the truth about anything you want to know. (then I notice he is wearing his wedding ring again; hasn't worn it for awhile) I was pissed, but I didn't show it. Kindly, I just said have a good day at work and walked away.
He came home last night, late. I didn't ask where he was, the wedding ring was off again. I continue 180, going about my business and he starts to tell me where he was and his night.
The wedding ring on and off ; I need to not think about that. It's just actions of what he is feeling, I want this, I don't want this, I want this.