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sparkysable posted 5/13/2014 12:43 PM

On Mother's Day, my ex sends me a text saying to check my email for a video from DD.

Sounds cute, right? And for a moment I thought, how nice. Maybe he actually is human.

However, that moment left me, and I realized that I dare not open this video on my home computer, lest it contain a virus, keylogger, or something similar. So I opened it at the public library computer . I'm pretty sure it was just a legitimate video with no virus attached.

In the video, my daughter says "Happy Mother's Day Mommy, I love you." However, she looked very confused, and her words were forced. *sigh*

So I ask her about it, I tell her I got her video that xwh sent me, and she tells me that he had her make a video for me, for OW, and for OW's mother.

OW is not her mother, and OW's mother is not her grandmother! So if he's feeling like spreading the Mother's Day cheer, he could have made a video for HIS OWN MOTHER, who actually IS DD's grandmother! But no! He must impress the OW and OW's parents at all costs, using DD as his little showpiece.

It just makes me mad. And I know there's nothing I can do about it. He can do what he wants when DD is in his care, I just hate the fantasyland unicorn show.

deena posted 5/13/2014 12:48 PM

Using the kids is just not right!!!! grrrrrrr

peridot posted 5/13/2014 12:55 PM

Wow!!!

tryingagain74 posted 5/13/2014 14:12 PM

Ugh! That is so wrong!

It's funny how these douchebags think that forcing the issue-- your new cheater stepmommy is now a mommy in your life, and you're going to treat her that way-- is going to make the kids more accepting of the Owives. Don't they realize that the more they force the issue, the more likely they are going to drive a wedge between themselves and their children?

But, maybe that just doesn't matter to them. Children are merely decorations that they use to dress up their lives and flatter themselves into thinking that they're good parents and good people. That's certainly demonstrated when the kids become teenagers, push back, and are then rejected by the cheater parents. How many BSs do we see on this site dealing with that-- XWSs who want nothing more to do with the kids when the kids are old enough to voice their own opinions and have a say in where they live and whom they spend time with?

Look at the silver lining-- at least he had her make you one. At least he acknowledged your existence. Mine didn't even bother with that.

sparkysable posted 5/13/2014 14:56 PM

Look at the silver lining-- at least he had her make you one. At least he acknowledged your existence. Mine didn't even bother with that.
I suppose you are right.

SBB posted 5/13/2014 19:36 PM

Your poor DD. I think it's awful he forced her to make one for anyone - even for you.

There's a way to capture these moments at the right time and in the right way. Forcing them to perform like circus monkeys is just awful. Doubly so when it is for OW and OWs mum.

Yuck. Just yuck.

LifeIsBroken posted 5/13/2014 20:01 PM

Why did your x have your daughter on Mother's Day ? Seems like that would be yours. Do you keep her on Father's Day?

Kajem posted 5/13/2014 20:39 PM

She's a prop for his life, it's center stage everyone is watching him.

I'm sorry she was put thru that debaucle. Hoping she finds her voice soon!

Hugs,
K

Linus1968 posted 5/13/2014 20:43 PM

Ugh!!! I can't stand stories of the WS trying to make life all happy dory when involving the OP. Why force it?

I feel bad for DD. It must have been weird for her when she said it was for the OW and her mom.

Why did he have her on Mother's Day?

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tesla posted 5/13/2014 21:37 PM

I think it's strange that he made one for you. I mean, I get it if the kid is begging for her dad to record her and send you a message...but you would be able to tell that difference.

sparkysable posted 5/13/2014 22:50 PM

She WAS with me on mother's day. I realize now that the way I wrote that sounded like she wasn't with me. He recorded it previously and then sent it on mother's day.

thebighurt posted 5/14/2014 00:09 AM

What a pos! Poor DD would definitely be confused by having to perform for people who really don't mean anything near the context of her message to you. I have to agree with TA74 that at least he did include you in the messages unlike her xpos.

Nature_Girl posted 5/14/2014 13:05 PM

This really pisses me off.

But I guess it isn't entirely surprising. To these kind of cheaters we are interchangeable. We are just parts. Get tired of one, swap it out for another. They do not see us as human beings with inherent value & worth. So sure. Force your precious child to lie on camera and make Mother's Day videos for women who are not the actual mother or grandmother. Make carbon copy videos. Because we're all just female gender parts. Not unique. Not important. No difference.

sparkysable posted 5/15/2014 10:22 AM

But I guess it isn't entirely surprising. To these kind of cheaters we are interchangeable. We are just parts. Get tired of one, swap it out for another. They do not see us as human beings with inherent value & worth. So sure. Force your precious child to lie on camera and make Mother's Day videos for women who are not the actual mother or grandmother. Make carbon copy videos. Because we're all just female gender parts. Not unique. Not important. No difference.

AMEN Nature Girl!

Forcing them to perform like circus monkeys is just awful.
SBB this is what I am the most pissed about. She's not his little circus monkey-isn't-she-cute-ego-kibbles-ego-kibbles plaything.

But really, I should just let him hang himself. My DD is not stupid, and she will see through his snake-charming one day.

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