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LifeIsTooWeird posted 5/13/2014 12:56 PM

I started noticing awhile back (many years ago) that I was prone to zone out when certain people were talking. I've always had a million things going in my mind while having conversations with people, but I was always able to retain what they were saying even if I wasn't fully in the conversation. I think when my BF would talk before he always held my attention, but lately it seems I have to focus more on our conversations as they are happening, because if I don't it seems I forget exactly what he said a few minutes later. It's not just him either though, my whole focus is off, and I'm scared I will never get that retention while daydreaming back again. It also seems I'm severely unimpressed by most everything these days. Something is cool to 5 people but not to me, something is funny to one person and I look at them like a moron and fake laugh when in reality it just seems stupid.

I'm not depressed, I don't feel detached, I actually think I'm a fairly easy going laid back person and my overall confidence is coming back and I do feel things, but this is just weird and I don't think I like it. I want to relate to other people again, I just don't understand most of them anymore.

Sparkle0504 posted 5/13/2014 15:06 PM

I get that too - which is tricky because SAWH and I own a shop and I have to talk to customers (and sound and look interested) on a daily basis.

I've put it down to the fact that the whole infidelity/trauma situation has just taken up too much headspace. I too hope I get it back.

Err...now what were you saying???