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User Topic: A step forward
LivingLearning
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Content  Posted: 2:01 PM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last night as we went to bed, I realized Wbf was reading, "Not Just Friends"! He is good about reading things but he generally doesn't take the initiative to do it himself. Usually, I buy the book, bring it home, and tell him I would like him to read it. This time, he picked it up for nightly reading on his own! It might be a small win, but it is a good one.


Living and learning how to move forward
Me: BGf
Him: WBf
Dday: 02/2013

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Allornothing
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LL, this seems better than good! I would view it as a pretty big win, especially as he took the initiative to read the book.

Maybe it's a sign of real growth for Mr LL


Me- BS 43
Him- FWH 43
Married 19 years, Together 26
Kids- 23,21,15,14
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree that this is a BIG win. I'm so glad to hear it!


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

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sunvalley
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have to agree it's a win...mine is not good about reading...he's had 3 books waiting for him for the past 9m and while he's committed to R he's not a reader and has used them as coasters. One session with a new MC last night and I came home to him reading the books in front of the hockey game...I'll take it! Small win or not, it's the small things that add up and make a difference...enjoy it :)


Dday July 2013
Me: BW mid 30s
Him: WH mid 30s
4PAs, multiple online As

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LivingLearning
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for the positive vibes all!


Living and learning how to move forward
Me: BGf
Him: WBf
Dday: 02/2013

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is great! Have you read it, LivingLearning?


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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PollyA
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's FABULOUS. WS taking the initiative is awesome.

Congrats!


BW - 2 x's ( once before married, got therapy, thought we'd both moved forward)
WH - SA? Probably not. Just a Selfish ASS
DD1 - 4/2001 - 1 OW, left, returned, therapy, thought he'd "gotten it". I was wrong.
DD2 - 8/2013 -

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LivingLearning
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read it many months ago. It was a great book and I still refer to it about setting boundaries, etc. That is partially why this was such a surprise... as it was many months after I had purchased it and hadn't made any mention to read it since I bought it. I had originally purchased it for me and got him "How to help your spouse heal from your affair" to read. Which he did at the time.


Living and learning how to move forward
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