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Helen of Troy posted 5/13/2014 15:29 PM

Asshole: "If it is not enough that you block me after 9pm from talking to my 17 year old daughter now you are blocking me before 9 pm??? I have recorded the blocking message and it has a day and time stamp. Now please allow communication with my daughter."

HoT: I've added more minutes for each kid, our daughters.

Asshole: "Well if I was a anytime acess person then you wouldn't have to worry about it but I guess control is what you are all about not allowing "OUR" children talk to their Father when ever they feel. I don't care how you twist it you have denied me access to talk to them when i wish for almost 4 years now. Why would one parent want to block another from talking to their child? It just doesn't seem like good parenting to me. I am responsible enough to know when they need sleep and to not disturb them. You have your dad accessible 24 hrs a day but not their children????? What sense does that make. Please consider a change in your control policy for the children's sake."

Backstory: he wants to be able to call them at 2am on school nights. No. I have them set to off at 9pm on school nights. Owife got a new phone and number because I blocked her. She then gets them to download apps to chat with them and alienate me. She about blew a gasket and sent me nastygrams because he and SHE didn't get mother's day. I ignore her 100% of the time. This apparently pisses her off beyond belief. She said she has screenshots of me being rude to my kid. Ok, whatever. I have ones of her making false accusations to my kids about me (did not tell her that just keep it in my back pocket). She is starting to become unglued.
He keeps referencing MSA about not blocking contact. I said they're free to use my phone if there is an emergency. They won't have phones on past 9pm on school nights. I don't make a fuss of it but the teens rarely or never contact me when they're with him. They don't respond to my texts or calls. His last tirade they'd run out of minutes and I didn't fix that while out shopping for groceries I want to retort all of this back to him and clear things up about this fake blockage he is stuck on.
The classic SI post-- respond or crickets?

I am so sick and tired of this stupid dance where he is nasty and rude I have to explain and he retorts time and time again. I'm sick and tired of being called controlling. Wah wah wah that's what he sounds like in email wah wah wah owife is on my ass so I have to go kick you wah wah wah wah. Shut the fuck up already. I'm no where near as controlling as that slut he married and can site many examples but why bother.

shiloe posted 5/13/2014 15:37 PM

HelenofTroy

First off - -

Wah wah wah that's what he sounds like in email wah wah wah owife is on my ass so I have to go kick you wah wah wah wah.

My vote: Crickets

FTG

caregiver9000 posted 5/13/2014 16:51 PM

crickets.

Don't answer any of it.

You can't prove a negative, remember?

peridot posted 5/13/2014 18:24 PM

Crickets is best.

courageous posted 5/13/2014 18:35 PM

I have found that any attention is good attention to them. There is no need to correct his accusations. It will bug him more if you don't answer. FTG!

Also he has no right to tell you how late the kids should be allowed to talk to him on a school night when they are not with him

Sad in AZ posted 5/13/2014 18:59 PM

You know you'll never 'clear things up' with him, so don't try.

Your house, your phones, your rules. End of story. Crickets to him & OW. Blissful silence for you.

SBB posted 5/13/2014 19:20 PM

Crickets. That bitch is all kinds of crazy and I would not be doing a single thing to help lift him out of that quicksand. All it will do is feed the beast. Starve that fucker. Starve him good.

Do your girls want to talk to her? How the fuck did she get screenshots of your messages to them? Is she spying on them or are they showing her. How old is your other DD? How often do they have to spend time over there?

PollyA posted 5/13/2014 20:43 PM

Definitely Crickets.

You are doing your teens a favor by being "the bad guy" and not letting them have cell phones at night. Today on npr a teen "rookie reporter" did a story about teens' severe lack of sleep due to constant accessibility via phones.

http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/teens-sleeping-cell-phones-clear-and-present-danger

XH is just being a whiny baby...

Kajem posted 5/13/2014 20:56 PM

BTDT i corralled phones at 9pm, powered them down and charged them. He did the same thing rant rant rant.

He brought it up in a 4 way meeting as an example of me alienating him!!! I had prior months phone bills with his highlighted calls at 10 -11 pm. His attorney was livid, XH waisted an hour of their time with this crap.

Good luck.
K

PurpleRose posted 5/13/2014 21:02 PM

His attorney was livid, XH waisted an hour of their time with this crap.

You know what we say... Give him enough rope and he will hang himself with it. You don't need to help him there!

Chirp chirp!

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