I don't want to post too much since we are still working out our settlement, but I keep thinking I would have loved to hear my WH explain to my daughter why it was more important for him to go to his Christmas party at work instead of her first family therapy session.
He said she understood.
I'm betting she understood *perfectly*. 😢
We can really use some hugs right now.
FTG
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” ― Pema Chödrön
I had a little one-on-one date with my DS10 yesterday, and in the car I asked how he's been feeling about things, and he told me that he's upset that his dad gets to see OW and her kid every day and live with them all the time, and DS10 and DS6 only get to see him EOW.
Man, did my heart want to break for him.
How can a parent not want to spend time with his kids?? How could he choose that?? Did my ex even think about this consequence?!?
My ex also continuously bails on taking the kids for playdates after school. The kids ask him to pick them up after school, and he always has some bullshit excuse.. (But I've learned what "he's working" means).
And to top it off, my FuckTard ex always tells DS10 and DS6 that it's *my* fault he doesn't get to see them enough.
I guess I'm glad DS10 knows my ex is full of crap since he knows I've NEVER said no to their dad picking them up, but how crappy to have to realize your father is a lying POS..
I wish I could shield my kids, but I have to accept that I can't and that they are going to have to deal with this, even as they get older..
Other than love my boys with everything I got, I don't know what else to do
Edited for spelling.
[This message edited by thebighurt at 6:32 PM, May 14th (Wednesday)]
I am thankful that at least for the majority of our marriage (aka pre-A), my WH was a really good dad. I'm hoping that at least that part of him will resurface after everything is final and tensions start to ease up, he has his own place, etc.
I still cannot understand why he doesn't grasp the seriousness of the problems DD is having right now.
I am also thankful that my kids are a bit older - at least they have the ability to understand the situation, to a degree, and I don't have to co-parent regularly for as long as some other folks here.
