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Chandler posted 5/14/2014 08:21 AM

I Think I want a divorce...I don't know how to even begin this process or where to start looking. ...maybe head is spinning help suggestions please

nekorb posted 5/14/2014 08:25 AM

Step 1: consult an atty
Step 2: are you in individual counseling? If not, get there
Step 3: eat, drink, sleep so that you can take care of yourself

It will be ok. Just breathe.

(((Hugs)))

WeepingBuddhist posted 5/14/2014 08:52 AM

Exactly what Nekorb said, except I would swap steps 3 and 2. Meeting with an attorney is the first and most important step. Find out your options and think about s/he says. You don't have to decide today.

Jennifer99 posted 5/14/2014 09:15 AM

It seems too simple doesn't it? But yes, those are the 3 steps.

norabird posted 5/14/2014 11:14 AM

(((Chandler))))

Baby steps. Get knowledge from consulting a lawyer, and your sense of power and control will increase, and the path will become a little clearer. It's not easy, and you can take your time with it, but do get your ducks in a row--gather financial info, etc. You can that way have everything you need to move forward once you feel you'r ready to do so.

one2ndchance posted 5/14/2014 12:13 PM

Read up on divorce laws at your state government website. Make sure it is the official government website since there are other websites soliciting help.

Most governments offer a description of the procedure explaining the necessary steps involved in a divorce.

Ann56texas posted 5/14/2014 13:40 PM

First, remember that you don't have to do anything TODAY. Get some advice from a counselor about YOURSELF first. Then find a good divorce attorney in your area. IT always pays to get the best. Get your ducks in a row by making copies of your bank records, and important papers. Make sure you start to put a little cash away just in case. Stay current on your payments so your credit is not damaged. But please think about YOU first. That way if you have kids they will be healthy if you are healthy. And dont take ANYTHING personal. This is a life choice THEY made for themselves.

Chandler posted 5/14/2014 21:15 PM

Thanks everyone. ..I have no cash saved up and my credit is shot to hell ...I don't think I can afford an attorney but I am going to try and get a free consultation with one and see what my options are.