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Chandler (original poster member #23038) posted at 2:21 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
I Think I want a divorce...I don't know how to even begin this process or where to start looking. ...maybe head is spinning help suggestions please
ME:BS Him:WS
D-Day: Too many I lost count
OC born Jan 09
"If happy ever did exist, I would still be holding you like this, all those fairy tales are full of shit, one more fucking love song I'll be sick" -Maroon 5
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 2:25 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
Step 1: consult an atty
Step 2: are you in individual counseling? If not, get there
Step 3: eat, drink, sleep so that you can take care of yourself
It will be ok. Just breathe.
(((Hugs)))
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
WeepingBuddhist ( member #39139) posted at 2:52 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
Exactly what Nekorb said, except I would swap steps 3 and 2. Meeting with an attorney is the first and most important step. Find out your options and think about s/he says. You don't have to decide today.
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
Jennifer99 ( member #39551) posted at 3:15 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
It seems too simple doesn't it? But yes, those are the 3 steps.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:14 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
(((Chandler))))
Baby steps. Get knowledge from consulting a lawyer, and your sense of power and control will increase, and the path will become a little clearer. It's not easy, and you can take your time with it, but do get your ducks in a row--gather financial info, etc. You can that way have everything you need to move forward once you feel you'r ready to do so.
one2ndchance ( member #14759) posted at 6:13 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
Read up on divorce laws at your state government website. Make sure it is the official government website since there are other websites soliciting help.
Most governments offer a description of the procedure explaining the necessary steps involved in a divorce.
Married 26 years
DDay #1 2/2002
DDay #2 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/9/2014
It's hard to see the road ahead if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.
Ann56texas ( new member #42685) posted at 7:40 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
First, remember that you don't have to do anything TODAY. Get some advice from a counselor about YOURSELF first. Then find a good divorce attorney in your area. IT always pays to get the best. Get your ducks in a row by making copies of your bank records, and important papers. Make sure you start to put a little cash away just in case. Stay current on your payments so your credit is not damaged. But please think about YOU first. That way if you have kids they will be healthy if you are healthy. And dont take ANYTHING personal. This is a life choice THEY made for themselves.
Chandler (original poster member #23038) posted at 3:15 AM on Thursday, May 15th, 2014
Thanks everyone. ..I have no cash saved up and my credit is shot to hell ...I don't think I can afford an attorney but I am going to try and get a free consultation with one and see what my options are.
ME:BS Him:WS
D-Day: Too many I lost count
OC born Jan 09
"If happy ever did exist, I would still be holding you like this, all those fairy tales are full of shit, one more fucking love song I'll be sick" -Maroon 5
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