If it hurts too much to stay, then you need to go
I see the point of it, but also see the other side that if you persevere it can be good again. Side note: we are in the same home still, but I chickened out of meeting my attorney to start D yesterday. I think I need to file and maybe see how it goes. I don't like limbo (no one does) and feel I need to do something! Any thoughts on the hurting too much saying? I am on the fence on that one.
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Never be so focused on what you're looking for that you overlook the thing you actually find.”
imo, you sound ambivalent about a decision. why not decide not to decide?
For me it's been empowering. I offer to do nothing, but will listen if he wants to offer something. I promise him nothing.
it's been pretty good so far.
We are also expecting in early Dec. so trying to navigate this before divorce becomes harder.
wow, just wow. I'm so sorry. Are you in IC? They would help manage this?
IMO if you wanted to D you would have gone to the attorney appointment.
You didn't, I think that's telling.
We all want the answer, now. But sometimes the right answer takes time. Do you want to hurry a divorce before baby just so it's easier?
Is that a good enough reason to put the nail in the coffin?
Jump when you are sure you are ready. Heal yourself and take care of you. When you are really
clear and not indecisive then the direction to jump and in what direction,is clear.
[This message edited by karmahappens at 6:07 PM, May 14th (Wednesday)]