This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.
Some couples experience immediate HB. (Hysterical bonding) Some don't.
About 2 hours after I confessed, QS couldn't keep his hands off me. It came and went. There were times he was ravenous, but he wasn't really present.I don't know how to describe it. He was mechanical. He would go thru the motions, but nobody was home. He was numb. He was scratching an itch.
I reached for his hand. I leaned in for the kiss. He returned them. Which is more than some BHs do. He told me much later there were so many times he hated me. So many times he didn't want me. But he participated because he knew I would ask if he was ok, and he didn't wanna talk about it, he didn't want to feel the hurt. So he covered it up in a way. Dunno if that makes sense.
Please be gentle and don't push. So very many BSs experience mind movies. They "see" the WS with the AP. Intimacy and affection are incredibly hard to get thru when those images are flashing thru their minds.
[This message edited by Aubrie at 12:11 PM, May 14th (Wednesday)]
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