I think there's a pretty bag stigma around counseling, and I hate that.
There should be a stigma around people who are recommended to go to counseling, but refuse to (like my ex).
There are some bad counselors out there, of course, but I think the majority of times it helps people. All you do is talk about your issues/insecurities/fears/etc and try to get things in perspective! And you can always switch counselors if you want!
I like taking my kids to counseling to give them a neutral 3rd party to talk to and vent about their issues, regarding the divorce and otherwise, without worrying about offending either parent.. Maybe my DS10 is frustrated with his dad, but he doesn't want to tell me because he doesn't want me getting mad at his dad, so the counselor gives him a safe place to express his feelings.
This is great for the adults too.. Sometimes you just need a neutral third party in your life. Maybe people like your mom and best friend mean well, but they will probably always have biases.. It's nice talking to someone who has no other connections in your life and where everything is confidential..
And honestly, I think every BS should get some counseling to deal with the trauma of infidelity and talk to someone not involved in the situation. And I ESPECIALLY recommend counseling to betrayed spouses who have particularly mean, abusive, gas lighting, blame-shifting exes who get particularly nasty. I "mostly" knew I wasn't crazy and that he was gaslighting me, but it meant a lot to have my counselor confirm my feelings... Counseling was a huge help in reminding me what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like..