Years ago a friend of mine (married) told me she was in an EA with a MOM and they were both planning to leave their spouses for each other. I was disgusted and horrified with her and attempted to council her to behave better. This was long before I had any personal experience with As.
I told her they had 24 hrs to come clean to the spouses or I would tell... unfortunately the MOM didn't tell his wife so I had to. OMG, so awful!
Anyway, I never spoke to that "friend" again.
So some of us friends of OPs definitely take the BS side, even when we are inexperienced with As.