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Angeles85 posted 5/14/2014 15:22 PM

Hello, quick update: Still in the healing process, it's been over 4 months now and fortunately all the crying/mess of the first 2 months are gone. I'm 1,000% sure I don't want to go back to my ex. It's over and now I understand it and think it's a big step. We are still working together and this is the part that I know I have to fix because it could be slowing my healing since almost everyday he begs me to go back
Anyways, I still cry once in a while but not everyday like I used to. The thing is this: Most of my family lives out of state and the family that I have in CA live kind of far and sadly are not very supportive also, my married friends are busy most of the time and we get together maybe twice a month, my single friends 4 out of 5 times I invite them to do something they say they can't. I joined some meetup groups for hiking but they are far from me and my car is old so I cannot always go. I met a really nice lady on one of these groups, she is busy all the time but once in a while we go out. On Thursday i volunteer to feed the homeless and I have met nice people there. So most of the time I am alone, which doesn't really bother me much...I hike alone, I read a lot, I watch movies at home and TV series, etc. Weekends are usually the worst, that's when sometimes I feel like I want to give up (call/text ex) but I haven't. So do you think it's good to spend too much time alone? do u think this can slow my healing process?
I forgot to add that I opened an account in a dating site...I closed it after 3 days! lol I'm sooo not ready to date! Every time I received a message I felt nauseous and stupid. So that's good. At least I know I'm not ready

[This message edited by Angeles85 at 3:26 PM, May 14th (Wednesday)]

norabird posted 5/15/2014 10:12 AM

I think your mix of time alone and efforts at meeting others and being social sounds perfect. Don't look to hit some ideal mix for others (comparing your progress in your head to some platonic vision of how it 'should' be), just listen to yourself and do your best for you. It's a process and you're getting there, be proud!