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Softcentre (original poster member #39166) posted at 10:04 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
He finally signed the divorce papers. No idea what he's said in his response, but he texted saying he'd signed and sent them back. Hopefully I'll get a copy early next week.
Thought I'd be all sad and contemplative. I'm not! 
Now we just have to agree the children's arrangements and the finances...
Me: BW
Him: XWH
2 Children
Finally reached indifference & looking forward to my new beginning
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 10:07 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
Yay!
I guess I don't understand the process yet. You sign and then there are still things to decide?
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 10:34 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
I will take this portion of the challenge & declare it a victory for the day!
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Softcentre (original poster member #39166) posted at 10:34 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
UK system:
Petitioner files for divorce
Respondent responds (either signing, fighting it or filing a countersuit)
Then parties have to negotiate children's arrangements if they're not in agreement (the courts will not grant Nisi if children are not provided for)
The divorce Decree Nisi is granted (says legally you can divorce, but you are not yet divorced)
Then you can apply for Decree Absolute (legally you are divorced)
Parties can sign documents agreeing finances etc only after the decree Nisi is granted. Most are advised not to apply for the Absolute until everything is settled because it can affect your entitlement to share certain assets. You can block the other party for getting the Absolute if you can show you've not reached financial agreement etc or being divorced would deprive you of benefits not yet negotiated on (ie. health insurance).
So, just beginning things, but on the way there!
Me: BW
Him: XWH
2 Children
Finally reached indifference & looking forward to my new beginning
Softcentre (original poster member #39166) posted at 10:35 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
I will take this portion of the challenge & declare it a victory for the day!
Me: BW
Him: XWH
2 Children
Finally reached indifference & looking forward to my new beginning
Linus1968 ( member #31243) posted at 10:38 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact
Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 17, D:15
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 12:02 AM on Thursday, May 15th, 2014
Yay!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
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