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The opposite of hysterical bonding. Repulsion for WS?

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MissRepresented posted 5/14/2014 23:33 PM

Has anyone found that they just have a complete and utter loss of attraction for their WS after D-Day? I really don't see us coming back from it. I just don't feel that way for him anymore. Things were rocky before I found out but now I just feel repelled by him. I couldn't care less if we never had sex again. Even before my discovery we hadn't had sex in about 6 months. Anyone identify?

Ostrich80 posted 5/14/2014 23:58 PM

I didn't feel that way after DD, in fact we HB and it was pretty damn good...for a month . It wasn't until after I discovered the porn, POV videos, looking up plenty of fish, and women looking for discreet affairs, that I found him repulsive. I wouldn't touch him with my dogs lady parts now...sorry belle, no offense

Nature_Girl posted 5/15/2014 00:15 AM

Me! I was utterly sickened & disgusted by him. Even to this day, just smelling him on the kids when they come back from spending time with him triggers revulsion.

hopelesslydvoted posted 5/15/2014 00:29 AM

I went back and forth, but he's never looked the same to me since the first Dday. All that sweetness and innocence was gone from his face. Every once in awhile I'd see the face of the man I fell in love with, but since this last discovery of false R, I refuse to look at him, unless I have too.

I'm not cold, I just don't want to see hope for us or anything like that by looking in his eyes. The only thing I would want to see is if he really started to feel shame or remorse for what he did. But, I think he knows he's not strong enough to let himself go there and feel that kind of pain. (hence the serial cheating)

I've heard people say "this time really aged him" and I just shrug and say I haven't looked this time.

strad posted 5/15/2014 07:01 AM

Yup, I was completely grossed out by XWH and his MOW . It was a major contributor to my decision to divorce him.

cayc posted 5/15/2014 07:07 AM

After the dday that showed me he was a philanderer? I realized I was never attracted to him, that no wonder I hadn't liked sex with him, that touching him physically repulsed me, and still to this day, even seeing a picture of him makes me physically ill.

But then part of what I learned on that dday is my xWH is a child molester so ...

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