It is time to regain some normalcy again I guess so that I can function in the real world :) Now, how to do that?
For me, I did it by focusing on me, my kids and my life, and ignoring FWW some. I did less household chores and more going out with friends. I re-invested in hobbies and activities I enjoyed. I did IC. I read psyc and spiritual books to help me find my new path through life and practiced implementing the suggestions in the books that registered with me. I joined a gym, I took Yoga classes, I bought an updated wardrobe.
While I did all of these things, I waited and watched to see if FWW was able to figure out her issues; why did she turn to OM, her personality and FOO issues. I looked for sustained remorse and practiced new behaviors. I did not expect them, but I watched to see if they were there or not. If they never showed up, or did not sustain, I was still going to be on my way to a better place.
To this day, I am less (much less) focused on FWW than I was before and soon after dday.