"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

Pudding posted 5/15/2014 15:38 PM

Very successful meeting with lawyer. Papers will be served Monday or Tuesday. Also changing will.

Also had confrontation with WH and told him papers will be served. He was shocked and devastated etc. Full of guilt, upset etc but we have been here before.

I am in a good place. Feeling strong and in control.. Thanks for all your support.

No response from OWH. Maybe he doesn't care. Maybe he is confronting OW. I expect she will contact WH, so we'll see how he responds.

Forged1 posted 5/15/2014 15:41 PM

<Applause>

NeverAgain2013 posted 5/15/2014 15:43 PM

1. You are my HERO.
2. Please see number #1.
3. It's very possible that the BH simply hasn't been out to get the mail. I'm HORRIBLE about mail and I hate going through it - I grudgingly drag myself out to the mailbox maybe once a week to collect it. It's usually spring-loaded because it's so packed. Mail sucks.

If there's a way to get to the BH to let him KNOW there's a letter in the box that's very important, then you should definitely do that. You don't want HER intercepting it when she gets the mail once she's home again.
4. You are my HERO.

DepressedDaddy posted 5/15/2014 15:45 PM

Now that you are at this point, come on over to the S/D forum. A great bunch of people. You can share your story and progress. You can receive some great support, and who knows, maybe provide some great support as well!

Congrats on feeling stronger and standing up for yourself!

Schadenfreude posted 5/15/2014 15:46 PM

You have proved to him you mean what you say. NC meant NC, a deal was a deal. Break that deal by romantic chit chat contact, you'll get divorce papers. Simple and clean.

I hope you discussed financial protection with lawyer as he has Friday to run to the bank, etc.

Let us know how full of regret he gets this time. Just in case someone else's WS takes the same path.

ShiningAutumn8 posted 5/15/2014 16:12 PM

He was shocked and devastated etc.

Never ceases to amaze me how these selfish, lying cheaters are so shocked and devastated when they are caught.

Asses. SMH

tfkeel posted 5/15/2014 17:48 PM

Never ceases to amaze me how these selfish, lying cheaters are so shocked and devastated when they are caught.

Like you say, they are liars. They lie about how shocked and devastated they are, too.

They lie about anything which they think will cause "damage control" and which will make the penalties and consequences upon them less severe.

brkn_heartd posted 5/15/2014 20:23 PM

Support being sent to you. I hope you have a good weekend with your family.

I bet he is surprised...surprised you did something about it! Good job!

Lalagirl posted 5/16/2014 07:13 AM

((((Pudding))))

He was shocked and devastated

I'll bet. But I'd say he's more disappointed...after all, you took his cake away and knocked his sorry ass off the fence.

Hang in there...we are here for you...and you are going to be okay.

Hugs!

NeverAgain2013 posted 5/16/2014 07:17 AM

Never ceases to amaze me how these selfish, lying cheaters are so shocked and devastated when they are caught.

Ain't it the truth???

I think these chuckle-heads think they're invincible or something.

sinsof thefather posted 5/16/2014 07:44 AM

He was shocked and devastated etc

How can he possibly be shocked and devastated - when he was only last week talking of 'future plans' with OW? What a... well......chuckle head.

Skan posted 5/16/2014 12:19 PM

(((hugs))) Good for you. Please, try to take the weekend to do something good for yourself. You deserve pampering!

WastedTime12 posted 5/16/2014 21:42 PM

(((Pudding))),

Sending strength and perseverance your way. Please keep moving forward. You deserve so much more than what he is giving.