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Hisbunnyonly posted 5/15/2014 22:49 PM

So the other night BH and I go to an event. A police event. We sit down and before time for it to start in walks AP's XBS and their child. She walks up too BH and I and asks if they can sit with us. I was too shocked and dumbfounded to answer. So she sat down. And proceeded to talk to me ans my daughter as if we were best friends and even took a picture of our children together..... now her and AP are not togrther anymore. They were in the process of D when mine and AP's A began. But still.... this was very very awkward for me..... any insight on what could be going on?

timidhope posted 5/16/2014 01:19 AM

I'm certainly confused and worried about her reaction. It's quite the feat already to forgive your AP ...this is just too good to be true that it's strange and IMO, alarming.

How does your BH feel about this?

SandAway posted 5/16/2014 05:52 AM

I see that you sent her an appology recently. It was pretty heartfelt so perhaps she is working towards forgiveness.

Did you ever accept her friend request?

floridaredman posted 5/16/2014 07:28 AM

Guess who will see those pics if she posts them on social media. It would be like a slap in the face to the AP. As in "Look who I was spending time with and you can't anymore.

Hisbunnyonly posted 5/16/2014 12:23 PM

How does your BH feel about this?

i appoligized as soon as possible for the situation b/c i felt that it would bring back memories of everything. he said it was okay and that it didn't really bring back memories but that he just felt it was odd as well that she would want to sit with us and be so friendly toward me.

It's quite the feat already to forgive your AP
it's my BH theroy that she does not view me in the way i view myself, meaning, she doesn't view me as an AP b/c they were already in the process of D, whereas i still view myself as an AP b/c they were not legally D and regardless of living situation, married is married....

Did you ever accept her friend request?

no, it is at this moment still pending. we have swapped a few messages back and forth, with her asking questions and me answering them, but she is aware that i'm not sure if allowing her into my life in any other way than answering her questions about the A is the best for my Marriage.

Guess who will see those pics if she posts them on social media. It would be like a slap in the face to the AP. As in "Look who I was spending time with and you can't anymore.

you are correct. i do know that he is blocked on all her social media pages, but i also am not nieve enough to believe that there isn't someone on her social media page who would show AP.... and her using me as a tool through their D is the last thing i want....i have been used enough, and used people enough in the past....

Hisbunnyonly posted 5/16/2014 21:51 PM

I just looked and she did not post the picture when she posted all the others from the event.

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