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♀ 39888
Member # 39888
Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Quick up to date about me, I am going through the D and have been a SAHM, met my husband at 19 and currently 41. Worked odd and end jobs here or there, was lucky found a managing job, but thank you big buy outs, my company lost the business.

During that time, I had actually, lost my gall bladder, uterus, found lumps and had been bed ridden for a good 6 months. This is when the "affair" was actually half assed confessed. But I digress.

Now, I am currently working part time waitressing and 2 years into pre reqs and co reqs for a nursing program at a community college, we decided that I would go and get 2 degrees at once while I get my nursing degree, during our false R.

During my marriage, we always had financial problems, only when he was responsible. So I found things at home to do. First and sadly, I am a couch potato, I love movies, tv shows, etc. I guess you would say I am an artist. I can make a lot of things. I crochet, taught myself how to knit, refurnish dumpster dives, jewelry, soap making, candle making, you name it, I have probably made it.

Everything I used to do, I find no love in at all anymore. I guess because it is because this house is bad juju and I just don't want to sit in it anymore. It has boxes packed all over the place and you can only clean so much.

I need help...I need ideas what I can do, free, outside of the home during the summer. I have a few vacations and concerts already planned. It's all the spare time, I need to get my mind off things!

BW: 41 (me)
Divorced soon.
Moving forward.
Pre Nursing Student
Getting a Do over at 42

Posts: 125 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Lonelyville
♀ 30346
Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I lived at the library! I could always get a book and get lost in it to keep my mind occupied.

me...BS, 46 years old.

Posts: 4613 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage You can pretty much find ANYTHING you might want to do (craft/knitting/hiking/yoga/group outings/etc.). And if you can't find one you like, start your own!

Hallelujah! Holy Shit! Where's the tylenol?

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 24145 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Southern New Mexico
♀ 36134
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll second Also if you are so inclined sell those refurbished dumpster dives/ handcrafted items. Volunteer - the humane society is always looking for help. Visit a nursing home, read to kids in a school or preschool.

I'm crafty, and like you, lost my joy in creating things. I've found I can get some of that joy back teaching/helping others (in my case DDs) how to upcycle and create. I'm not doing the hands on stuff- just lending expertise. So far I'm excited for her creations coming out as she imagines them.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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