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♀ 39888
Member # 39888
Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Quick up to date about me, I am going through the D and have been a SAHM, met my husband at 19 and currently 41. Worked odd and end jobs here or there, was lucky found a managing job, but thank you big buy outs, my company lost the business.

During that time, I had actually, lost my gall bladder, uterus, found lumps and had been bed ridden for a good 6 months. This is when the "affair" was actually half assed confessed. But I digress.

Now, I am currently working part time waitressing and 2 years into pre reqs and co reqs for a nursing program at a community college, we decided that I would go and get 2 degrees at once while I get my nursing degree, during our false R.

During my marriage, we always had financial problems, only when he was responsible. So I found things at home to do. First and sadly, I am a couch potato, I love movies, tv shows, etc. I guess you would say I am an artist. I can make a lot of things. I crochet, taught myself how to knit, refurnish dumpster dives, jewelry, soap making, candle making, you name it, I have probably made it.

Everything I used to do, I find no love in at all anymore. I guess because it is because this house is bad juju and I just don't want to sit in it anymore. It has boxes packed all over the place and you can only clean so much.

I need help...I need ideas what I can do, free, outside of the home during the summer. I have a few vacations and concerts already planned. It's all the spare time, I need to get my mind off things!

BW: 41 (me)
Divorced soon.
Moving forward.
Pre Nursing Student
Getting a Do over at 42

Posts: 125 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Lonelyville
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Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I lived at the library! I could always get a book and get lost in it to keep my mind occupied.

me...BS, 46 years old.

Posts: 4738 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage You can pretty much find ANYTHING you might want to do (craft/knitting/hiking/yoga/group outings/etc.). And if you can't find one you like, start your own!

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 25302 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
♀ 36134
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll second Also if you are so inclined sell those refurbished dumpster dives/ handcrafted items. Volunteer - the humane society is always looking for help. Visit a nursing home, read to kids in a school or preschool.

I'm crafty, and like you, lost my joy in creating things. I've found I can get some of that joy back teaching/helping others (in my case DDs) how to upcycle and create. I'm not doing the hands on stuff- just lending expertise. So far I'm excited for her creations coming out as she imagines them.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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