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User Topic: And again it happens...
♀ 15906
Member # 15906
Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So today would have been my 5th anniversary with my now ex SO. He decided to end our relationship by hopping onto a dating site and start chatting with women and also met up with one. He got mad at me because I found out and then told them he wasn't single (at the time). Told me I was controlling and he won't be controlled and I had no right to butt into their communications. Mmmkay. His ex wife cheated on him twice and that's why they divorced.

So that was his reason and that he wants his freedom now that his son is turning 18 and graduated from high school. (He saw his son a few weeks every year in the summer since he was 4 because he chose to move to a different state.) I have 4 kids who I have about 95% of the year because my ex hubby lives in another state. He knew this going into the relationship about my family situation. I thoughtI found a great guy who wanted this but turns out he doesn't. I get that he has a right to change his mind, but to do it by cheating. It effing sucks.

We do live together at the moment because financially I'm not in a good position with my job so I'm trying to find something full time. We are roommates. It's awkward, but I have my kids to focus on so it helps the relationship thoughts.

He tells me now he doesn't want to date others and just find his land out in the boonies, build a little house, and live alone on the other side of the state because it's to crowded over here.??? He works in A big busy city and absolutely hates it but won't leave due to the salary.

I've been here before 7 years ago with my ex so I know I will survive. I know a relationship doesn't define me as a person, but it's something I want to have in the future. And sex! I miss the intimacy of it. Sigh...

BS-me 34
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids

Posts: 1414 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
♀ 42092
Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm so sorry. Yes, you will be okay, but right now it still sucks. Sending you some peace and strength and hope you can get separate households soon.

I know you know this, but it has nothing to do with you. Sometimes people present themselves as more mature than they really are and we can't control that. It's not your fault that this is happening again.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
♂ 40173
Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This story really stinks. I'm sorry mommato4. Someone who has been an SIer in the past should not have to be back here once they have graduated. FTG.

Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

Posts: 1155 | Registered: Aug 2013
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Mommato4))))) I'm so sorry, sweetie. What an ass.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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