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User Topic: He has a proposal for me
tesla
♀ 34697
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go ahead, WTF along with me as he tries to sell me this bill of goods:

ex-shat:

I have a proposal for you. There is a job in XXX [2.5 hours away] working 7 12s plus per diem. 4 to 6 weeks of it would be enough to get current and to pay you what you're owed.
However, I want my visitation with Teslet to be quality time. If we could juggle our summer visitation schedule so I don't lose any time, I could get back to even. And we can all get what we need?

Oh, how much would I love to copy, paste, and send him EVERY text where he has promised me that he is *about* to pay me. He's 0-12.
And he had his chance to select his summer visitation...but didn't.
And he's had opportunities to pay me every penny he's owed me...but didn't.
And he's had opportunities to spend quality time with Teslet...but didn't.

He must be reeeeeeeeeeally hard pressed if he floated that out to me.

Ex-shat, I'd like to introduce you to your consequences. They suck, I know, but so do you-- so ya'll should get along just fucking fine.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4835 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10154 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
redrock
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And we can all get what we need?

I do not post on your threads often but OMG, WT delusional Fuck?

He wants to address 'everyone's' needs now, right before he gets his ass handed to him for the second time? I really, really hope that the legal system works here and he gets thrown in jail.

It might renew my belief in fair play, but -if not- please light a flame near this bullshit so his dumb ass will spontaneously combust. It's a freaking public service.

[This message edited by redrock at 4:57 PM, May 16th (Friday)]


I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)

Posts: 3163 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Michigan
Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wonder if the sound track from The Twilight Zone plays non-stop in his head ...


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5255 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You mean that quality time where Stripper Whore spends time with teslet while ex-shat sleeps?


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 2101 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
hexed
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I frikken hate ex-shat. that was absurd and funny I spit soda through my nose, onto my keyboard. Yuck!! and it hurts!

dumbass


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8556 | Registered: Apr 2008
osxgirl
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm... here's a thought....

Instead of asking your permission and (as we all know) never following through with something,

WHY NOT JUST FRICKIN DO IT ALREADY?!?!?!?!

Sigh.

You know - actually go do the work, get the money, and give it to you. If it means he'll miss time with Teslet, give you dates that he is requesting you keep Teslet, give dates he would like for "make up" dates, actually work with you on those, actually follow through, and actually pay you as he earns the money.

But, of course, we know that it's not about ACTUALLY doing anything.... just trying to convince everyone his fairy tale world is great -the one where he thinks of all these wondrous ways to take care of things, and that's good enough, without him actually having to follow through on anything.

Is it possible for someone to LITERALLY have sh!t for brains? If so, ding, ding, ding, I think we have a winner!

[This message edited by osxgirl at 5:47 PM, May 16th (Friday)]


Posts: 2419 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: Maryland
gonnabe2016
♀ 34823
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just FOLLOW the f'n SCHEDULE, you DUMBASS!!!!!
O!M!G!

Do you just automatically register *annoyance* when you see that he's sent you a text or email because you just KNOW it is gonna be some type of bullshit?


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8252 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
peridot
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So his next excuse for not seeing Teslet will be because he was working and it's all your fault for not caving into his demands. Or he won't take the job because you won't cave into his demands. So it will also be your fault when he doesn't pay what he owes you. So then he ends up in jail. Either way it's going to be your fault.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4801 | Registered: Feb 2008
dmari
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You have sooo much restraint to not go off on him.


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2340 | Registered: Oct 2012
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What disturbs me is that his proposal will totally fly in family court. The judge will see this and, because they never seem to f-ing take into consideration proven past behavior, will only see a hard-working family man who just wants to pay his ex-wife the support she deserves, and who wants only to spend as much time as possible to be with his beloved son.

So all effort will be made to accommodate this moron who sluffs off his son to his stripper ho-bag while he sleeps off his latest bender.

Tesla, I think your ex-shat is made of Teflon. Nothing's going to stick. No consequences at all, ever.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10154 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And we can all get what we need?

This isn't even a question.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 501 | Registered: Nov 2013
tesla
♀ 34697
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NG - I just refuse to believe that. There has to be justice somewhere. The system cannot force me to *not* follow the rules *they* set up.
The guidelines say he can elect his summer visitation by 1 April. If he does not, then I elect it and inform him verbally and in writing. I did both and then proceeded to plan my summer and the time I have Teslet.

It is completely unreasonable, 20 days before Teslet is to go over for his summer visitation to expect me to 'juggle' visitation on the bullshit promise that he is going to make good on the $11,000 he owes me. Fuck that.

He knows what he is looking at. He's looking at the loss of control. Maybe he doesn't end up in jail but he does end up with garnishments, having to produce tax returns and/or W2s yearly. He doesn't want it to come out that he lost that job because he was drunk on the job. His L has talked to him, asked him about that and ex-shat does NOT want that out. So he tries to 'make me a deal.' Fuck him. He either produces his financials like I did AND he drops the idea that he gets to claim unemployment to reduce CS, he agrees to a garnishment that appropriately pays me back+his regularly ordered support amount, and whatever else needs to be done to ensure that this fucker meets his financial obligations to his child.

I have not withheld visitation. I have not alienated Teslet from him. I have not been underhanded or shitty in any way. I have gone to pick up my child EVERY time from visitation and never acted as a coward, sending another in my place.

Fuck him and his 'hard working family man bullshit.' That is where he will hang. Some family man that gets drunk on the job...in a job where he could have easily killed innocents. Some family man that sits on his ass for months collecting his pay while suspended. That marries his stripper whore because he needs the tax write off. That tests positive for whatever and gets kicked out of the company rehab program and is subsequently fired. Some fucking family man that loses his wife's and children's health insurance. AND DOES NOTHING.

And then from the end of January to the middle of April DOES NOTHING to seek a new job. He doesn't sign the union books to be eligible for contracting jobs until the middle of April. He had a job working 6 12s near the house but he quit it last week because he was going to take a job that worked 4 10s. He was going to do that so he could maximize his time with Teslet this summer. But now it's something else because he's realized that he's fucked.

No, there is too much here that must show a court that he is a piece of shit. For god's sake, he's in contempt already. AND HE's DONE NOTHING BUT SEND ME PRETTY TEXTS. Fuck. That. Guy.

My pound of flesh is coming and I will fry it in that Teflon pan and feed it to my dog.
Fuck him.
And that, gonna, is how I feel every time I see his name pop up on my phone.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4835 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To be honest, I'm pretty surprised. I figured Stripper Whore would be the one who had to take a job in XXX.

Posts: 1852 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want you to be right.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10154 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want you to be right too Tesla.

The way I see this is he may get away with it again and maybe again another time but not with your permission. He'll do it for as long as he can. Then he won't be able to and they'll throw the book at him. Fuck I hope that's how it happens.

Are you going to respond or crickets? I would be tempted to copy and paste all of the other times he promised the same thing and end it with 0 from 12.

Do you think he was sacked for booze or was he high?

How much has it cost you to pursue this? Can you get costs?

Fucking arse cheese motherfucker.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5735 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Un. be. fucking. lievable. Can you figure out how he is still walking upright and breathing on his own? Nothing like going for the Hail Mary when you're down 120 to 0. Just get off the field and go do the locker room interview dude. You've been traded to the Detroit Lions and you'll never get a chance at the Super Bowl of life again. Accept this!


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1815 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Um...IrishLass, I'm a Detroit Lions fan.

He already owes my L costs from the first go round. He will owe again for this.

If I make it to morning, he'll get crickets. But I'm pretty close to losing it on him. I have sooooooooooo many responses.

I think crickets are going to win out. Honestly, if he wants to offer a proposal...he can do it through his lawyer. He doesn't even really offer anything. I'm not interested in his crazy ass ideas. (God, that reminds me...he had all these crazy, weird ideas when we were married. He was convinced they were brilliant and I was always like, "What the hell? Am I just that obtuse that I don't see the brilliance of this?") I'm interested in the nitty gritty details and actions...I like actions.

If he's stupid enough to text me another proposal or to ask if I've thought about this one, I will almost certainly respond, "Oh, you're being serious. I thought you were drunk when you sent that."


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4835 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I apologize to all the Detroit Lions fans but hey lets face it. I figured it was a good analogy


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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