We all know how you feel, all been there and done that.
The 'specialness' of your marriage has been destroyed and only time and true remorsefulness and hard work from your husband will ever build you a new specialness.
I liken the whore to a slug, who has left a slimey trail over every bit of my life and marriage, it is taking a long time to get that slime removed.
If you want to R and he is doing everything to help you, then you can get there and she WILL gradually become less important. It is not easy, and there will be times when you slip back and after weeks of it being a little easier, it just flares up again.
Everything that allornothing said is spot on. She does NOT have the power here, YOU do.
She is nothing but a cockroach to be stamped on.
It is so hard to comprehend how our strong and trustworthy husbands do this to us, we all believe they are the last man on earth who would treat us like this, but they did and we have a choice to walk away or stay if we think they are worth it and are putting in the time.
I know you don't want to hear that it is still such early days for you cos we all know how it feels like a lifetime, but it is and you are still in shock and hurting so much.
Don't let this worthless piece of s...t of a woman have ANY control over your decisions
Stay strong (((((((hugs))))))