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Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

this is my first post on si although i'm very familiar with its husband has been reading and posting for a year and a half and has sent lots of material for me to read via email and text. more then a year and a half(20 months) ago my husband found out about a five year emotional/physical affair i had been having .at first there was lies and lots of are now both in individual therapy and marraige counciling. we have learned alot about ourselves and our relationship and i still dig deep within myself to come to grips with what it was about me that made me do what i i almost threw away a marraige of 15years and cause so much trauma to my family. we now have a better relationship then we ever did and i know with hard work the changes we have both made in our selves(and continue to make)will be so rewarding. i have four beatiful children that i continue to work on my realationship with as i know they have been devastated by my actions as well. i thank god everyday for my second chance and pray for the day my husband can find forgivness and peace with us.

Posts: 4 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: MrsYaka
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Default  Posted: 1:30 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome to SI, MrsYaka. I'm glad you feel comfortable sharing here. I hope we can be a part of your healing, and that of your husband's as well.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

Posts: 29076 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi MrsYaka,

Since you've been lurking I know you know the typical welcome drill (HL, threads, books) so I'll spare ya.

Glad to see you here. Its wonderful that you and your Hubs are working thru this mess. Keep up the good work.

This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 7909 | Registered: Nov 2011
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome MrsYaka,

Glad you decided to start posting. It's awesome that you are in IC and committed to doing the work.

I also had a LT EA/PA. It's a bitter pill to swallow for a BS. It will take lots of time and work for our BHs, it helps when they see us doing the work and making progress in fixing ourselves.

My M is also better than it ever has been but I too have the pain and hope of watching my BH and praying for his healing and happiness.

I understand.


fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.

I edit often to fix stuff ☺️

Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.

Posts: 1814 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi, MrsYaka!

I'm a FBS, seven years out from d-day. I've reached a point of peace and forgiveness in our M, so I just wanted to let you know that it IS possible. I suspect you already know that from reading here, though.

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Default  Posted: 6:24 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi there! Kudos to you for joining! I wish my FWW would join here. We are almost 2 years out and R is great, and possible. I have the utmost respect for any WS that joins here- it takes courage and vulnerability. We survived a 3 year LTA, so I do know first hand that it is possible to R from those types of things. Rooting for you guys on your journey.

"Son, you've got the future- shining like a piece of gold, but I swear as we get closer- it looks more like a lump of coal"

Posts: 137 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Ohio
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks so much for all the support.i know it really is possible its just so hard at time.just seeing all the sucess stories is very encouraging.thank you:)

Posts: 4 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: MrsYaka
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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've only just started posting myself, and I have already learned from reading that everyone here is so helpful and it all really helps in the long run

Me - WBF, 24
Her - EX GF, 19
Dday - 04/2014

NC Since 6/7/2014

Posts: 61 | Registered: May 2014 | From: South Wales - UK
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