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MrsYaka posted 5/17/2014 00:12 AM

this is my first post on si although i'm very familiar with its contents.my husband has been reading and posting for a year and a half and has sent lots of material for me to read via email and text. more then a year and a half(20 months) ago my husband found out about a five year emotional/physical affair i had been having .at first there was lies and lots of tt..ing.we are now both in individual therapy and marraige counciling. we have learned alot about ourselves and our relationship and i still dig deep within myself to come to grips with what it was about me that made me do what i did.how i almost threw away a marraige of 15years and cause so much trauma to my family. we now have a better relationship then we ever did and i know with hard work the changes we have both made in our selves(and continue to make)will be so rewarding. i have four beatiful children that i continue to work on my realationship with as i know they have been devastated by my actions as well. i thank god everyday for my second chance and pray for the day my husband can find forgivness and peace with us.

Jrazz posted 5/17/2014 01:30 AM

Welcome to SI, MrsYaka. I'm glad you feel comfortable sharing here. I hope we can be a part of your healing, and that of your husband's as well.

Aubrie posted 5/17/2014 07:50 AM

Hi MrsYaka,

Since you've been lurking I know you know the typical welcome drill (HL, threads, books) so I'll spare ya.

Glad to see you here. Its wonderful that you and your Hubs are working thru this mess. Keep up the good work.

knightsbff posted 5/17/2014 15:31 PM

Welcome MrsYaka,

Glad you decided to start posting. It's awesome that you are in IC and committed to doing the work.

I also had a LT EA/PA. It's a bitter pill to swallow for a BS. It will take lots of time and work for our BHs, it helps when they see us doing the work and making progress in fixing ourselves.

My M is also better than it ever has been but I too have the pain and hope of watching my BH and praying for his healing and happiness.

I understand.

Strength.

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 5/17/2014 15:54 PM

Hi, MrsYaka!

I'm a FBS, seven years out from d-day. I've reached a point of peace and forgiveness in our M, so I just wanted to let you know that it IS possible. I suspect you already know that from reading here, though.

Nailinmyforehead posted 5/18/2014 06:24 AM

Hi there! Kudos to you for joining! I wish my FWW would join here. We are almost 2 years out and R is great, and possible. I have the utmost respect for any WS that joins here- it takes courage and vulnerability. We survived a 3 year LTA, so I do know first hand that it is possible to R from those types of things. Rooting for you guys on your journey.

MrsYaka posted 5/18/2014 12:39 PM

thanks so much for all the support.i know it really is possible its just so hard at time.just seeing all the sucess stories is very encouraging.thank you:)

DWelshe posted 5/18/2014 12:49 PM

I've only just started posting myself, and I have already learned from reading that everyone here is so helpful and it all really helps in the long run