Thank you all once again for your responses and lending me your ear.
We have no children. I rent an apartment.
There are very few things of hers left since she came with very little except a few family photographs / some clothes / some jewelry / and of course her dog.
She took most of her summer clothes (I can pack a two suitcases extremely well) and I sent the dog to her this past Thursday.
I still have her few family photographs / some of her jewelry / half a double closet full of winter clothes / and the cremated remains of a previous dog.
Night-times are the worst. My mind gets weary (as it is right now) and I cannot believe the nightmare I am living. I do not go to sleep anymore - I pass out from exhaustion.
I should mention I do not drink anymore - 13 years sober. I also do not do recreational drugs. I have started smoking again since she left.
For the past year (roughly when she left for the seven and a half months duration medical assistance I mentioned earlier) - I started to have nightmares. They started to bother me most nights. When she returned the last time for three and a half months - they slowly started to go away. The nightmares consisted of her abusive ex-husband finding her on one of these medical seeking excursions and harming or killing her because she escaped him / or nightmares where I lost her to another man. She knew about my nightmares.
It seems a part of my nightmares came true thanks to her. I lost her to another man and from the details I did get from her - she had a hand in encouraging the male family friend since she loves to flirt with men - and he saw it as an opening and an opportunity. She said there was nothing sexual - but from what I know even if there was nothing sexual - she crossed a major line. I saw what she wrote in the e-card to him and I was devastated.
Please realize she is physically challenged. She is very shy but attractive and has a way about her when she wants to use it. She uses a cane and is very unsteady when she walks. She is also very fragile and any fall could cause her permanent damage. She also suffers from the chronic pain I mentioned earlier. She was in an abusive relationship for years before I met her.
I think this male family friend sees her as an easy victim to be swept off her feet and taken advantage of. Plus she helped by encouraging him right from the start.
I asked her to break communication with him about two weeks ago - and she said she did - but it seems she has not since she made him her newest "Facebook Friend" two days ago.
I cannot help but think she is going to get into some serious trouble - and this time there will be nothing I can do to help her.