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hopelesslydvoted posted 5/18/2014 01:50 AM

Quick back story, WH serial cheater, thought we were in R, Turns out he told me he's in love with OW. R was False. It's been a week since and still in the same house.

My saddest thought is he will never regret us ending, (this is a man who regrets throwing out a pair of shoes)he's staying out all night, and is trying to look his best, etc.

Ok so today, my computer was acting slow. I ran all the anti-whatevers and cleaned it up. I came to find one of his "dating" sites in the history. Strangely this made me feel a little better knowing that he is still the same. Not a better man who's going to change for her. Now, it's not that I didn't know this, but to see it helped.

devasted30 posted 5/18/2014 05:14 AM

I am so sorry you are going through this. I know how much it hurts. What are you going to do? (((Hugs)))

NeverAgain2013 posted 5/18/2014 05:20 AM

What's that you say? He's cheating on his "soul mate?"

Here's my recommendation.

Pull up a front row seat so you can see the eventual train wreck. Make sure you have a tub of popcorn and a 72 oz bladder buster soft drink. Sit back, get comfortable and watch the eventual explosion. It's coming, trust me.

This guy is such a cliché.

hopelesslydvoted posted 5/18/2014 14:03 PM

NeverAgain2013

He wants to talk today...

Ostrich80 posted 5/19/2014 02:15 AM

I'm sorry HD...I can see where you would get some type of satisfaction knowing, he's not becoming a better man for her either, just sucks though.

kansas1968 posted 5/19/2014 02:25 AM

I know EXACTLY what you mean. My husband had a long term affair. (Only time he cheated as far as I know) But during the time when I told him he had to be honest or I was leaving, he told me he screwed two other women when he was in the middle of the affair. He thought I would come unglued, but strangely, it did make things better.

I was SO happy he cheated on her. He said when she found out, she was upset and told him she was shocked that he would do that. I laughed out loud!!

Ostrich80 posted 5/20/2014 01:48 AM

T/j
I seriously considered telling.ow she was one of many just to make her feel as shitty as I but.I chickened out.

imaf posted 5/20/2014 08:18 AM

My xwso did the same as soon as he got went back to her he logged on to dating sites. I found out because he still hadnt changed his email password when I last had a gossip. He si now married and has a child but still tries to contact me. The latter doesnt make me feel any better. But the former does! I guess a cheater is alwsys a cheater!

imaf posted 5/20/2014 09:08 AM

And of course he isnt going to change for her. He has probably just chosen her because she is the easy option. Remember cheaters are cowards. And staying with you would mean working on his shit and suffering the consequences of his actions.
I know how much it hurts ((((((((hugs))))))).

BtraydWife posted 5/20/2014 09:53 AM

I'm so sorry you are finding out R was false. I am hopeful for you because you know the truth now and can make the right decisions for yourself. Lots of hugs!

hopelesslydvoted posted 5/21/2014 19:41 PM

Thanks for the hugs y'all! I need them.

T/j I seriously considered telling.ow she was one of many just to make her feel as shitty as I but.I chickened out.

I don't think you chickened out, I think you have standards not to stoop to her level. Trust me i thought about it too. I thought about telling her H. because he has the right to know, but I just haven't felt like bringing myself into that bullsh*t drama, that these two pillars of society have brought on to my life.

They will destroy themselves and all that surrounds them. I will not be around to see the aftermath of it.