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Topic: Strangely made things easier
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hopelesslydvoted
♀ 42573
Member # 42573 |  Posted: 1:50 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014 |     |
Quick back story, WH serial cheater, thought we were in R, Turns out he told me he's in love with OW. R was False. It's been a week since and still in the same house.
My saddest thought is he will never regret us ending, (this is a man who regrets throwing out a pair of shoes)he's staying out all night, and is trying to look his best, etc.
Ok so today, my computer was acting slow. I ran all the anti-whatevers and cleaned it up. I came to find one of his "dating" sites in the history. Strangely this made me feel a little better knowing that he is still the same. Not a better man who's going to change for her. Now, it's not that I didn't know this, but to see it helped.
Posts: 46 | Registered: Feb 2014 |
devasted30
♀ 39439
Member # 39439 | | Posted: 5:14 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014 | |
I am so sorry you are going through this. I know how much it hurts. What are you going to do? (((Hugs)))
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
Posts: 1802 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada |
NeverAgain2013
♀ 38121
Member # 38121 | | Posted: 5:20 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014 | |
What's that you say? He's cheating on his "soul mate?"
Here's my recommendation.
Pull up a front row seat so you can see the eventual train wreck. Make sure you have a tub of popcorn and a 72 oz bladder buster soft drink. Sit back, get comfortable and watch the eventual explosion. It's coming, trust me.
This guy is such a cliché.
Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.
Posts: 6327 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA |
hopelesslydvoted
♀ 42573
Member # 42573 | | Posted: 2:03 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014 | |
NeverAgain2013 
He wants to talk today...
Posts: 46 | Registered: Feb 2014 |
Ostrich80
34827
Member # 34827 | | Posted: 2:15 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014 | |
I'm sorry HD...I can see where you would get some type of satisfaction knowing, he's not becoming a better man for her either, just sucks though.
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
Posts: 5734 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest |
kansas1968
♀ 32214
Member # 32214 | | Posted: 2:25 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014 | |
I know EXACTLY what you mean. My husband had a long term affair. (Only time he cheated as far as I know) But during the time when I told him he had to be honest or I was leaving, he told me he screwed two other women when he was in the middle of the affair. He thought I would come unglued, but strangely, it did make things better.
I was SO happy he cheated on her. He said when she found out, she was upset and told him she was shocked that he would do that. I laughed out loud!!
Me - BS
Him - FWS
DD - December 14, 2010
Married 43 years 1/14/2011
Affair lasted 7+ years
Affair had been over for 2 years before I found out. OW sent me a letter.
Posts: 1351 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Kansas |
Ostrich80
34827
Member # 34827 | | Posted: 1:48 AM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
T/j
I seriously considered telling.ow she was one of many just to make her feel as shitty as I but.I chickened out.
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
Posts: 5734 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest |
imaf
♀ 30916
Member # 30916 | | Posted: 8:18 AM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
My xwso did the same as soon as he got went back to her he logged on to dating sites. I found out because he still hadnt changed his email password when I last had a gossip. He si now married and has a child but still tries to contact me. The latter doesnt make me feel any better. But the former does! I guess a cheater is alwsys a cheater!
Left him because I didn´t like his other girlfriend.
Posts: 139 | Registered: Jan 2011 |
imaf
♀ 30916
Member # 30916 | | Posted: 9:08 AM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
And of course he isnt going to change for her. He has probably just chosen her because she is the easy option. Remember cheaters are cowards. And staying with you would mean working on his shit and suffering the consequences of his actions.
I know how much it hurts ((((((((hugs))))))).
Left him because I didn´t like his other girlfriend.
Posts: 139 | Registered: Jan 2011 |
BtraydWife
♀ 42581
Member # 42581 | | Posted: 9:53 AM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
I'm so sorry you are finding out R was false. I am hopeful for you because you know the truth now and can make the right decisions for yourself. Lots of hugs!
Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
He choked me. What else is there to say.
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he can't meet them.
People change when staying the same becomes more painful than changing.
Posts: 5431 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States |
hopelesslydvoted
♀ 42573
Member # 42573 | | Posted: 7:41 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014 | |
Thanks for the hugs y'all! I need them.
T/j I seriously considered telling.ow she was one of many just to make her feel as shitty as I but.I chickened out.
I don't think you chickened out, I think you have standards not to stoop to her level. Trust me i thought about it too. I thought about telling her H. because he has the right to know, but I just haven't felt like bringing myself into that bullsh*t drama, that these two pillars of society have brought on to my life.
They will destroy themselves and all that surrounds them. I will not be around to see the aftermath of it.
Posts: 46 | Registered: Feb 2014 |
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