Well, last Friday I decided to sign the Lawyers contract and pay the retainer, it's time to get this circus on the road and moving forward.
DDay#1 was 3 years, 4 months and 9 days ago, but who's counting.
I tried to stay because of the kids, but her remorse just doesn't cut it, and now her drinking habits are really becoming an issue.
My kids, who I was trying to stay for, finally told me that it was time to give up. That is an eye opener, when your DD15 and DS12, who you are doing this for, tells you its time to go.
The kids said they don't want to live with her, so I guess its up to me to sole parent them. She does want joint custody, but not sure if she is capable.
I travel for a living, so I have a tough choice to make. Do I change jobs and stay close to home at reduced pay, or do I hire a nanny to help while I'm gone?
And, my lawyers said she was in for a rude awakening.
The house I bought right before we married, its mine because I purchases it prior.
No alimony in Texas, but spousal support probably wont happen. Although she stayed at home with the kids, she has a higher degree from the University, and has been capable of work.
Split assets? She has a problem there too, as Texas is an "at fault" state, infidelity being one cause. And since she involved the kids with the OM, she might suffer big time if we draw the right judge.
I was going to be pleasant about this whole thing, but every night that she drinks pisses me off. Every time she tells me she is a grown woman and can make her own decisions and doesn't have to listed to me, I get pissed. And every time she follows it up with "If you don't like it, you can just go fuck yourself" just makes my blood boil.
And the next morning, she's off to her job at.....Wait for it....
Working as the Church Secretary.
Anyone have any advice, I would appreciate it.