My aunt passed away and I am out of town helping my uncle survive planning and attending two funerals for her in addition to trying to just get him together. She has been in hospice for a few months and has literally done nothing in the house, had no food (that we could actually eat), 4 months of mail piled on every flat surface, etc.
Yesterday was my first full day here and I busted my ass for 19 hours straight. I responded twice to my kids' texts - I think I tapped out 25 words to them all day.
STBX is bitching because I didn't answer him, yet I found time to answer the kids. Then said he hoped everything is going as well as can be expected.
I've got a reply typed out saying that I answered the kids and no one else. I further explain that no one else is bitching about it because they understand that they are not priority right now. I point out he did not have an emergency.
I feel like I am setting a boundary, but on the other hand I feel like I am engaging/taking bait. I know that if I don't answer him in some way it will just fuel his anger. The kids are the ones with him right now and I do have to go home to him still.
I could just say the kids and my uncle area priorities right now and leave it at that.