3 years out. R is progressing---in some ways our marriage is better ---we definitely talk more, thanks to a great MC. My gut wound is still healing, but the pain still flairs up at times--I am still aware that the wound is there every day. Things feel comfortable in our house again.
Sometimes, it is almost hard to believe that WH’s A really happened. Every once in a while it will hit me:
“OMG, while I was home holding down the fort & taking care of our 4 kids, WH had a sexual relationship with another woman!”
After 22 years together building our family, & thinking I was married to an honorable man, who I unquestioningly trusted 100%,
I was truly blindsided on Dday.
I remember thinking during the weeks before & after Dday:
“Who is this extraterrestrial alien who is occupying my husband's body, & what did it do with my husband?”
WH was unrecognizable.
I know that other BSs have had this same feeling. I am hoping that there are WSs out there who can explain what it is like to be in the head of the person whom the alien invaded.
[This message edited by mchercheur at 1:31 PM, May 18th (Sunday)]