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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay, dday was 6 years ago, second one just under 5 years. I could count one one hand the number of times I've had an orgasm orally from H since then.

I just have an extremely hard time relaxing. H (during his head up ass period) told me AP said he was very persistent for her. Nice, that put a visual in my mind I really didn't need. I think that's where the problem comes from. I can't enjoy it because I still think of that. It seems like the only time I can is if I've been drinking a lot.

I rarely have a problem with sex anymore. Hardly any mind movies ever.

I can use a toy and not have a problem. We use one often and H is fine with it. I just want that back for us, for myself.

Me: BS H: WS
4 kids
DD #1 7-11-08
DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.
Started R in 12-09
"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."

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Default  Posted: 1:26 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it's a good thing your H is working with you to achieve satisfaction. You need to let go of the words he spoke to you before. Easier said than done, I know.

But I tried using that feeling and changing it into that nervousness and excitement as if it was my first encounter with him. It gave him a clean slate in my mind.

Maybe you could try something along those lines, but most importantly staying in the reality of each other in the here and now moment.

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